So I absolutely do not feel comfortable with my babys dad being in the room while I give birth. Especially since we're no longer together. It's not like I'm trying to be mean I just want to be as comfortable as possible especially since its my first tim having a baby. His family is freaking out and verbally attacking me. I could care less about what they're saying but they're also saying that if he's not in the room he won't be aloud to sign the birth certificate. Is there any truth to that?


Jodi - posted on 09/14/2012




Seriously? So in their view, a father who accidentally misses the birth because he is away on business and the wife goes into labour can't go on the birth certificate either? Or what about all those dads away serving their country when the partner gives birth? We penalise them for that too?

I think they are full of shit. You have every right to have whoever you want in the room when you give birth. If his being there is going to make you uncomfortable, then don't have him there, it is 100% your choice.


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Dove - posted on 09/14/2012




He has absolutely no right or reason to be in the room when you give birth if you don't want him to be. He does not have to be in the room when you give birth in order to sign the birth certificate. You typically stay in the hospital for at least a day or two and the paperwork can be done anytime before you leave. Let him know that you will have someone call him as soon as the baby is born and he is welcome to come and see the baby and sign the birth certificate at any time.... but the actual giving birth part is about YOU and you will have whoever you want in the room with you and if it's not him.... it's not him.

Tee - posted on 09/14/2012




Every state is a little different with the laws for the birth certificate but here in Ohio you do not fill the paperwork out when you have the baby. That is done before the mom is discharged, at which point the father would have to sign an affidavit stating that he is the father before he signs the papers for the birth certificate and that is usually 2-3 days after the baby is born.

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