Sole parental responsibility?

Sophia - posted on 08/20/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




What are some grounds to be awarded sole parental responsibility from a court? I am in the process of having a parenting plan established and am thinking that sole parental responsibility would benefit me and my children in the long run. I don't want to have to "confer" about every little decision I make involving my children with their father, because I know he will always try to make things difficult.


Jodi - posted on 08/20/2015




It really depends where you live, but it is highly unlikely you would just get awarded sole parental responsibility without some just cause. You both have the right to a say in your children's lives, particularly when it comes to education, medical, religion, etc.

I was awarded sole parental responsibility eventually, but only because my ex was being a complete dick about signing the forms for my son's high school, so I had to go before a magistrate to get a decision - then the complete dick did not even bother to turn up. So the magistrate said if he cares so little about it that he won't even bother to turn up, but he fusses enough that I have to keep bringing it to court, then he was stripping him of parental responsibility and giving it all to me because the man was just trying to make life difficult for me, and in the meantime, hurting my son. But as I said, you need just cause to be awarded sole parental responsibility,


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Sophia - posted on 08/20/2015




He is definitely going to be involved in his children's lives, since there is going to be a timesharing schedule in place. I am only being realistic and trying to avoid conflict for my two small children. That is why I feel sole parental responsibility (not sole custody) would be in their best interests. One parent should not have to be forced into shared parental responsibility just because the other took part in "creating" the children. It is all about decision making, and I feel and anticipate, or rather I know that he will most likely go against anything I ask for just to be vindictive.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/20/2015




However, the man has the right to have you confer with him about everything. Why? BECAUSE THOSE KIDS ARE AS MUCH HIS AS YOURS.

Work on mediation and a co parenting plan. Just because you think it 'would be easier' isn't a solution, my dear, you need to do what is right FOR YOUR KIDS. Not for you, not because you don't want to 'deal' with the man that you created multiple children with.

It doesn't matter if you like the man or not, the fact of the matter is that those children were not immaculate conceptions, and he's got not just the responsibility to support them, but the RIGHT to be involved in decisions regarding them. Sorry.

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