Son's first birthday and in-laws

Laken - posted on 02/24/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My husband and I had difficulty with his family after his deployment and my son's first birthday is arriving and I have been trying to get to talking to the in-laws to invite them. They won't talk to me or respond to my invitations to come or even acknowledge a receipt of the invitation. My husband wants nothing to do with them and has blocked them on his phone. I have emailed his parents to talk to me personally because they may not get a hold of Brad. They still have not done so. I pretty much forced my husband to call to verify they got the information. Is it wrong to send an email telling them that if they cannot talk to me personally then they should not come (if they are indeed coming) and to tell me now if they are never going to acknowledge receipt of calls, voicemails, emails, because we will not bother them ever again. I wanted to fix this issue for my son and my husband. Yet, they won't respond to me at all. My husband will put up with them for our son, but won't communicate. I'm frustrated because I feel that even if Brad did communicate, the in-laws should at least respond to me as well if they were to come. I feel there will be a lot of tense pressure and worry about throwing so much effort into this party only to have it blow up in my face. How would you handle the situation


Elfrieda - posted on 02/24/2013




I would plan as if they are not coming, but have two extra places available just in case they do. Try not to let them affect you so much. If they come, that's great for your son, but I think not responding to the invitations means they're not interested in coming.

Even if you are angry if/when they do show up, try to be the bigger person here. Be polite, cordial, and distant.

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