Son wants to go into the Royal Marines!

Louise - posted on 03/15/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 16 year old son has dropped into conversation that he wants to join the Royal Marines, this has come from nowhere as he has a full time job as a builders assistant and was settled in his work, until the company went bust and he lost his job ending this week. He has now decided to join up even though I have told him I will not sign him in so he will have to wait until he is 18. I really don't want him to be in the forces, the thought of him going to Afghanistan makes my blood run cold. He is of slight build and very gentle natured and I can't see him training to be a sniper (which is the department he wants to join) I really don't know what to say to him. He is at present running 10 miles a night with a 30 pound weight on his back and using the gym three times a week he is deadly serious. As a mum I am heartbroken but if he really wants to do this then I will support him. I am just at a loss to know what to say to him.

Would you feel the same if your son at such a tender age decided he wanted to join up for a minimum of 5 years. Interested to know if I am just an over protective mum or simply just human!


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Renae - posted on 03/16/2011




Oh dear god. I hope my baby never wants to do something like this. I know that someone has to do it. I have heard people in the military say that they do it so their friends and family dont have to - very brave and responsible of them. But I wouldn't want it to be MY BABY! You are just being human, I'm sure every mother must feel the way you do.

Where did he get this idea from? Does he really know what he's in for? Maybe some research would be a good idea. A trip to a career counsellor perhaps? They should be able to put him through some tests that will show what jobs suit his interests and personality. It may confirm that the military is right for him, or it might give him some other options to think about.

Krista - posted on 03/15/2011




You're human. No matter how old our kids are, we always view them as our babies. And to think of our babies in a situation that is dangerous, where we can't do a damn thing to keep them from being hurt...well, it's terrifying.

He may yet change his mind. Between the ages of 16 and 21, I changed career aspirations countless times.

It's worth sitting down with him and having a heart-to-heart. Don't try to discourage him, but maybe explore why he's looking at choosing this particular path. Is it something he feels compelled to do? Or is he just panicking due to his job loss and figures that the Royal Marines is a good back-up plan? If it's the latter, perhaps you can help him explore his options, to see if there might be other paths that would provide more job security, but less danger. He could perhaps even compromise and find out if there is room in the forces for someone of his trade skills. That way, he'd have the job security, but would not be in an active combat role.

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