Son wants to meet biological father

Michelle - posted on 03/20/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son is 10 years old and has only been asking about his biological father for the past year. I have managed to put it off, but he is becoming more and more persistant about it. My issue is that he has not been there for him financially/physically for the past 10 years and I gave him about 6-9 months to be part of his life once he was born and all he did was not show up/cancel. I have no bitterness towards his father, just worries. He kicked me out when I told him I was keeping the baby and told me not to persue him for child support, which I haven't, and I found out he was into cocaine as well ( I have actually seen him do it and he had a fiancee that died of suspicious circumstances about 3 years ago. So I had no problems cutting ties with him, now I worry once he meets my son he will try to get some kind of custody of him and that something might happen to him while he is in his custody. I am just trying to protect my son who is an innocent and doesn't understand, Please help.


Dove - posted on 03/20/2013




Let the boy meet and know his father. I understand you wanting to protect your child, but to not allow ANY relationship... was wrong. Even with drug use, through the court system, he most likely would've been awarded supervised visitations... as well he should be.

I totally understand you wanting to protect your son from negative influences, but half his DNA comes from this man and it is only natural for him to want to know his own father.

I suggest you talk to a lawyer about how to best go about introducing the two of them while still being able to protect your son.... assuming his father is still using cocaine.

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