stay at home

Ginnie - posted on 06/24/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i'm a stay at home mom and we only have 1 car which my hubby takes to work.sometimes i take but with gas prices i only do this when i have to.but i get lonely and depression staying at home all day long with the kids and housework. does anyone else deal with this.

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Ginnie - posted on 06/28/2009

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thanks for all the advice and feedback i will take some of your advice and put into action.

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Its not just you and its not just stay at home Mums. Ive been house bound (ish) a few times over the years and the isolation can be very difficult to cope with. You are not even close to the only one who struggles with this. My sister also felt this way and was sent to a counsellor and she is glad she went (although she resisted it quite alot at first).

LATASHA - posted on 06/25/2009

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OMG honey yes i thought it was just me!! My kids are 6, 3, and 1 month and 5 days. My son is so hyper and all day he is bouncing off the walls. my oldest daughter hollas shes bored all day and in between all that i fit on housework where ever i can. I told my OB what was going on and she has me going to a counslor just to talk about my problems and the things i am going through. Honestly it really is working I was iffy about it at first. Crying is a everyday thing. No it's not just you, me too!

Lindee - posted on 06/25/2009

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I have three amazing kids and my husband has a job where he is away from 6am till 6.30pm and even longer during the summer months. He works alot of weekends and has to go away weeks at a time. I have had an extremely hard time adjusting as i am a born and bred coutry girl and at the moment i live in town, so i am totally out of my element. To add to this i have just moved interstate away from family and friends all for my husbands work. I have been through every day feeling alone, lost, completly unhappy and stuck. But i got to a point where i had had enough and felt like it was changing who i was and i did not like this. So i decided to change my train of thought. I thought of positive things and told myself positive words and got outside with the kids and went walking. There are people i know who have lost their children or husbands so now i treasure every moment i have with them as you never know what tommorrow will bring. my kids won't remember me for my clean house or the work i done they will remember me for my cuddles love our walks out side etc. This is what every night i lay in bed and feel good about. give yourself a break and tell your self you are a great mum and a great person. Also join a play group or get some mums to gether and have a laugh about our lives, however boring uneventful they are. you have the choice to change things!

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I would stay home with your kids. Your husband and kids are the most important. Putting their happiness before your own should make you happy. I am a stay at home Mom to and understand that it can be frustrating at times. One thing I do for a break everyday is going to the gym. I can put my child in the babysitting and have as long as I need to exercise, which keeps me healthy, happy, and gives me a break from my child that gets me out of the house. I am sure husbands a people who work full time get frustrated with their jobs at times to, but they don't receive the happiness a Mother does when their child smiles at them or tell her "I love you". Hang in there!

Christine - posted on 06/25/2009

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I'm at home full-time with my twin boys (2 1/2 yrs old). The first year was a very difficult transition because I felt so isolated. My husband made a point to get me out of the house at least once a day, something I've tried to keep up until today. Often times that can mean just taking a walk around the neighborhood, walking to a park, having a picnic lunch on the front lawn, anything to just get outside and get some sun on my face! Plus the little bit of exercise definitely helped reduce my stress and made me feel better. It's harder when weather keeps you inside, but then I try to do something out of the ordinary like set up the kids' tunnel/tent set. That way they stay happy and that helps keep my stress level down. It's not easy, but hang in there. You're not alone!

Leah - posted on 06/25/2009

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i stayed at home even before our first child for our business. after our son was born he was about 10m, and i was having such depression, thought i was going to loose my mind. i felt like such a bad mom. so many moms that work would kill to be home and here i was at 6 pm when my husband got home i was handing baby off and running out the door for five min to my self. i tried meds, gained fifteen lbs, got more depressed. so i went out and got a part time job. i feel great, but know our marriage is rocky. i don't get home until 645, so we eat later, my husband has to run our oldest to and from sports practices. it's very stressful. what do i do? A: quit to keep him happy or B: work to keep me sain please help!!!!!!

Kameron - posted on 06/24/2009

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i dealt with it.... i had to get anti deppresion meds. you may want to go back to your ob and let them know.... life is a lot easier for me now. i hope it gets better!

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