stay at home mom. feeling defeated, alone,overwhelmed.

Heaven - posted on 07/19/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hello my name is heaven. I am new on here. I just really needed to vent .maybe find some kind of hope that things will get better. My issue is I feel as though my husband doesn't help me enough with the kids. Grant the fact he works Mon thru Friday 7am to 4 pm. But after work he takes a nap and 5 out of 7 days he goes to his friend house to smoke cigars. I mean really I can use your help at home. I have a 8 year old daughter she is pretty good and helps out with my 1 year old son. But that is not her job to do so. Although i do appreciate her. now my son he is a hand full. Like a little chucky doll.I mean he was great 2 months ago. Sleep threw the night took naps. Oh no not anymore .. He is full of energy all day long. And hits his sister attacks me. I try to put him on time out. That don't work. I try to put him in his play pin.or crib he jumps right out. He doesnt sleep in his crib anymore .he jumps out at night.right into my bed.I tried everything to get him back in his room into his no sleep for break. He wants to play with me or his sister all day. I'm tired .I am a stay at home mom living in a new state where my husband is from. I came to Ohio from ny. With no friends nor family here. I hate that I just can't do anything at all just be with my kids. I don't feel like the women I once was. I went from on the go working fashion stay at home lonely mom. I love my kids to the moon and back.I just feel overwhelmed and disconnect from the world. Thanks for reading my issues God bless. Any advice will help thank u


Dove - posted on 07/21/2016




You need to teach him to be gentle. One is really a bit young for 'time out', but he can and will learn to stop hitting w/ some patience and a lot of consistency.

EVERY time he hits you firmly (but gentle enough to not hurt) grab his hand and tell him in a stern (but also gentle... not mean or yelling, just 'business like') voice 'no hitting'... then in a 'nicer' voice say 'be gentle'... and then SHOW him gentle by taking his hand and stroking your cheek (or his sister's cheek if she's the one that got hit) w/ it.

It takes time and consistency, but I've never had that method not work w/ a child.

Maybe look to local churches to see if there are any mom groups or play groups in your area. Getting out and about might help your mood AND burn off some of your son's energy. He 'should' still be taking a nap every day since an overtired child will sleep worse than a well rested one... maybe setting up some 'snuggle time' w/ books or a movie will help mellow him out enough to nap.

Tricia - posted on 07/21/2016




Hey Heaven, sounds like you guys have had a ton of change in a very short amount of time. Have you found any good moms groups? or maybe go to the library and look at the mommy and me reading class? You could get out and make some new friends. As for your DS, maybe he's feeling as frustrated with the new changes as you, just can't express it in words! Hang in there!! I'll be praying for you.


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