Stay at home mom's with kids in preschool?

Melissasgreene - posted on 02/03/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter is 3 and has some socialization issues, in which it was recommended to us to immediately put her in some sort of preschool program. Her father prefers she attend Monday - Friday from 8am - 2:30 to get maximum exposure to other children, routines, etc.. I am reluctant to put her in all together, but would prefer the 8 - 11:45 am program. I can't help but feel extremely guilty that she is going to be gone and I will be at home. Any other mom's going or have gone through this? Any other moms that stay at home while your kids are in school a full day? I just don't know how I would transition and get used to her being gone when I have stayed at home with her for so long!


Liz - posted on 02/03/2013




I'm a stay-at-home and my 3 year old goes to daycare from 7.30 to 5.30 every day - these times are determined by my husband's arrival and departure from his workplace, because he has our only car.

My daughter was very definitely needing additional stimulation and socialisation after two years at home following premature birth, her isolation before this having been according to her pediatrician's advice. We tried daycare for this reason, though couldn't go for half days because of our lack of ability to transport her outside of the set times above.

At first I was worried sick and felt guilty, but she absolutely adores it. She has blossomed throughout the last year, developing ahead of all of her milestones and is incredibly happy. Now that we are getting to know the other children in her class and, through them, their parents, we're managing to set up quality play dates which are beneficial for everyone!

Meanwhile, the fact that I'm at home gives me time to pursue my plans for home business whilst meaning that I am still here for those days when she is either sick or the daycare is closed, without any disruption. I also keep her home for a day every other week just for quality time, bonding and fun: for example, this week just gone she stayed home on Wednesday and we painted, made cookies, built a playhouse/castle out of bedlinens and generally had a silly time. These times are a great treat for both of us, but invariably, the following day, she demands to go 'back to school' to see her friends!

As long as you have something to do that will make you feel like you have purpose in the days when she is away, you'll find that the time races by more quickly than you could have imagined.


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Lady Heather - posted on 02/03/2013




Why not the shorter program this year and if she likes it you can go for the longer next year? My three year old goes to preschool but here they are only two half days a week. She loves it and it's been a good thing for her for sure, but I know she wouldn't have been quite ready for all day. I think a gradual transition would be good for both of you. After all, it's only a couple years until kindergarten starts! Don't feel guilty. Just look at it as an opportunity to get some housework done quickly and maybe have an actual coffee break! I plan on continuing as a SAHM after my kids are both in all day school. I figure I will just have a spotless house, a nice garden and maybe have time for some volunteering. :)

Dove - posted on 02/03/2013




Generally speaking preschool is really good for kids. I think the shorter program would probably be good for both of you. Some kids thrive in preschool at 3 and some others should really wait until 4. I had two that loved it at 3 (and went 5 hours/day, 5 days/week) and one that I 'probably' should have waited another year (was only going 5 hours/day, 2 days/week though) if I had it to do over again, but I did what I thought was best at the time. He did adjust and loved/loves his teacher, friends, and class. He's just one of those kids that would rather be home with mom all day.... and that probably won't change for quite a while as he's almost 5 and still that way. ;)

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