step mommy issues

Marlise - posted on 02/25/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




hi all,
I am a stepmother to an amazing little 2 year old girl :-) , lets start by saying being a stepparent is definitely very hard, emotionally. Sometimes or a lot of the times you can really feel like you are not loved the same / that you always have to go the extra mile to ensure that they are OK with you. I have so much to discuss, but lets start with ... I was wondering If anyone knows if its normal for a toddler to wake up quite grumpy most of the time? is this normal or could something be bothering ? also, she used to be happy/fine with me picking her un in the mornings/middle of the night, lately/past few months this has changed and she doesn't really want or like me to pick her up, is she going through a phase , am I being too sensitive ? these things really get to a stepparent as we already go the extra mile to ensure happiness and comfort.


MaryAnn - posted on 02/27/2016




I agree with Shawn. I too am a step parent, and one thing I think we often do is confuse child related issues to step parent issues. Children are people, too, and in the step family (ugh... These words irritate me) we often forget that children are people, too, with a wide array of emotions- and they're not always going to be happy or comfortable. As influential adults, it is not our job to make sure they are- it's our job to teach them how to fix it, or how to deal if they can't/won't.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/26/2016




Toddlers can be grumpy when they wake, just as adults can. It means nothing but that they maybe didn't get a restful nights sleep.

As far as the disconnection between her wanting you to comfort and now not wanting you to...that's most likely a phase. All kids 'swap' which parent they go to for comfort at times.

Good luck with everything!

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