Stepson staying together with girlfriend

Cece - posted on 07/09/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband regularly visit his son. When I'm driving with him I wait in car. I told my stepson that until they not married I wont come in. I ask him not to come with girlfriend to the house because for my neighbours it looks as if we agree when my husband fetch them and bring them.They having a child and its been going on for 3 years.I spoke to the girls mother and she wants her child to come home.We have 2 girls out of our marriage and want to raise them with good Christian values . My husband and I are both involved in the church.

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Michelle - posted on 07/09/2013

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Unfortunately these days the majority of people live together before marriage and also have children before marriage. A lot of marriages also end in divorce.
You are the one missing out on your Grandchild (yes, it may be a step can still be treated as part of the family).
I also think there is a bit of a double standard here, your husband has a child that isn't yours! He either had sex before marriage, is divorced or "lived in sin" as well.
Take a step back and look closer to home rather than judging your step son.

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Michelle - posted on 07/09/2013

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Evelyn has said it well. Your step son is a Father and it doesn't matter if they live together or not, he has to pay for his child. He would be paying child support if they didn't live together so I doubt he would be saving too much.

Mary - posted on 07/09/2013

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I think its sad you worry about what other people may think rather than being a family. I don't know but it looks to me you are not really seeing the big picture because you are rejecting a child for their parents beliefs, the child is innocent!
I understand you want to send the right message to your daugthers but you are also sending a wrong one by not being fair to the child, not your step son, his child

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