Still Walking/Nursing Toddler to Sleep, Pregnant with # 2

Melanie - posted on 02/19/2015 ( no moms have responded yet )




Hi everybody,

Hopefully this isn't too long.

I just found I am about 6 weeks pregnant with my second child-- a huge surprise! My daughter, who is 28 months, is still an avid nurser. Sometimes its the most nutrition she gets in the day when she isn't interested in eating.

To get her to go to sleep, we've had a routine for a while now where I wear her in our Boba soft-structured carrier, and walk her around the room while she nurses. She seems to need movement to fall asleep, and this is the best way to relax her and calm her down. I've been pretty happy to do this, but now that I'm pregnant, I know I won't be able to wear her in the Boba much longer. I now need to figure out how to get her used to falling asleep lying down on the bed so I can nurse her, and then my plan is to wean her off of nursing to sleep at all.

She still wakes a few times during the night to nurse, some nights are better than others. Again, I was more than happy to continue all of this, as I want her to wean when she's ready, and she obviously still has a need for nursing, whether it's for nutrition or for comfort. But, again, I have a hard time envisioning nursing HER to sleep as well as a newborn.

Recently I have been trying to unlatch her a little earlier than normal, to see if she can settle herself to sleep on her own. Sometimes she will roll over and fall asleep. Other times she will roll over, I will put my hand on her back, and she will start to get fidgety. I will keep my hand there, waiting for her to fall back asleep…but she won't. Eventually, she'll just sit up and decide she doesn't want to sleep anymore. This is one of the huge reasons I haven't tried any "sleep training" or weaning or anything-- if her sleep gets disturbed too much (too many unsuccessful unlatches at nap time or bedtime, doesn't get nursed immediately in the middle of the night, etc), she will just sit up and decide she's not tired anymore and doesn't want to sleep. So, in order for us all to get rest, I've just been using nursing as a secret weapon to ensure sleep…thus the dependence on it, I guess.

This seems like a rambling post, but I guess what I'm looking for is… Does anyone have any tips or tricks to wean off the walking to sleep or nursing to sleep? Has anyone experienced this as well, and have any good pointers? Or, am I thinking ahead too far…. Is it possible for us all to get good rest with me nursing both the toddler and the newborn at night?

Thanks so much in advance for the input!

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