Super morbidly obese

Jodi - posted on 10/29/2016

Totally removed my doubts about her being a troll too. Totally trolling because this isn't even believable. In fact, you aren't even a parent if you say shit like that.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/29/2016

Whatever. Your last post proved that you are either a troll, just an incredibly obtuse person.

Erika - posted on 01/01/2019

I know some of you ladies may think I’m a troll but I wanted to update you ladies anyway. I haven’t been on here in a while but I wanted to let you know that we have made many health improvements. Me, my daughter and son Wade have been eating healthier since she left the hospital. My daughter has received weight loss surgery over a year ago from today. She is down to around 375 lbs and continues to eat healthy and exercise. She also enrolled in community college where she is studying to be a teacher. I am so proud of her progress. As for me, I’ve had my ups and downs with dieting and I’m not really into exercising but I’ve managed to lose 85 pounds bringing me down to around to 365 lbs. thanks for your support moms

Michelle - posted on 02/26/2017

It's not hard to read what you have written to keep your story semi-believable!!

Erika - posted on 02/26/2017

I guess you guys were right. The hospital put her on a strict diet and she lost a lot of weight there. She's down to about 700 lbs now. She will eventually get weight loss surgery and we we'll be going to therapy together. I'm also down to about 375 now and continuing to diet.

Michelle - posted on 10/29/2016

So you are wanting to kill your daughter so she could be a record holder one day. That's insane!
You will both die a horrible death if you don't get yourself together but you also need the mental help as well.
A huge appetite is NOT good, it's a slow way to die.

Erika - posted on 10/29/2016

She's hospitalized now. Her boyfriend was bringing fast food to her every day. They would fool around and she would eat about 20000 calories a day. When I was bathing her she stoped breathing. She was recorded between 900 and 1000 pounds. I started going to the gym last week and eating better. I think I might have lost 5 pounds. I think the hospital will want her to lose weight. But if she wants to be big let her. She always had a huge appetite and that's good. You know what I like her fat. She could one day be the record holder. She's still able to feed herself and she's happy. That's all that matters.

Jodi - posted on 10/16/2016

Erika, to respond with "we only eat fast food once a week and I try to exercise" demonstrates a lack of understanding about what might be causing the obesity in your family. Firstly, it isn't always fast food that is the contributor, especially if you mostly eat home cooked meals. You need to be looking at portion size, the TYPES of food you are cooking (get rid of processed food and only eat fresh fruit and vegetables, and lean meats), watching your sugars and carbohydrates, and doing more than trying to exercise (at minimum you should be going for a good walk each day). I suspect that perhaps it would be beneficial for you to speak to professionals about the changes you can make in your lives - for BOTH of you.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/16/2016

Once you are out of denial, and start helping YOURSELF, your daughter may see the worth. Why should she make an effort when her mother is in complete denial about her own dangers?

You are not presenting a good example. At all.

Michelle - posted on 10/16/2016

I just converted this to kilograms and that's over 200kg. That is morbidly obese!!! A healthy weight for a woman is around 60-80kg (depending on height of course).
If you are both that heavy and unhealthy, you shouldn't be having fast food at all. You also need to look at your portion sizes. Use smaller plates so you think you are still eating a plate full.
You need to see your doctor for yourself and your daughter. If you start to get yourself healthier then your daughter may want to change as well.

Erika - posted on 10/16/2016

Thanks moms but we only eat fast food once a week and I try to exercise

Casey - posted on 10/16/2016

Dear Erika,
Your situation is a difficult one. As a mom you want the best for your children. The broken chair at school must have been the last straw for your daughter. I don't have too much advice or anything to give you. I just wanted to tell you not to give up. I lost 145 pounds 10 years ago and it is a real life changing experience. Don't give up.

Erika - posted on 10/16/2016

Your right I should loose some weight, but it's her I'm worried about? The doctors said I'm alittle heavy, but there is nothing wrong with me. She is pre-diabetic and has a risk of death.

Michelle - posted on 10/15/2016

I agree with the other ladies. You need to be looking after yourself as well.
You are morbidly obese and the sooner you acknowledge that the better everyone.
Go and see your doctor and get help for both of you.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2016

The first thing you need to come to terms with is that you, yourself are morbidly obese, unless you are also almost seven feet tall! That is not to be mean, but to hopefully open your eyes!

Morbidly obese is being over 100 pounds OVER your ideal weight, and unless you are 7 feet tall, there is NO WAY your ideal weight for your height is 350 lbs!

Start a healthier lifestyle for yourself first. Let your daughter see how well you are doing, and encourage her to join you. By thinking that, at 450 lbs, you are just "pretty heavy...never morbidly obese", you are doing yourself a disservice. Surely you are a beautiful woman, so why would you not want to feel better, have more energy, and be healthier?

Our kids do what they see us do. They learn from our example, even as adults. You should have taken steps sooner to see to your health and that of your daughter. As she is now an adult, unless she is declared medically unfit, the most you can really do is change what kind of example you are giving her.

My son is large. He is 6'5" tall(still at least one growth spurt left, as he is 19) and he weighs 250. This is in the lower end of minor obesity, as his ideal weight would be around 240. He would be morbidly obese at 350, and grossly obese at 450!

Please, for your own health, start being healthier! Once she sees you can do it, she will hopefully follow.

Jennifer - posted on 10/15/2016

This is just my opinion but everyone needs to practice better eating habits. I have changed my ways, because I was always in pain due to severe fibromyalgia, food was my friend. I noticed that my son was eating more but making the wrong choices as to what he should eat. After I began reaching for apples and grapes, he did too. It is not easy at all to change but it can be done. I would also get her some help, possibly someone to talk to including making sure she sees her PCP. Don't give into everything, she has to fight to get better. You cant do everything. Sometimes we have to give our kids tough love.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2016

Uh, yes you ARE morbidly obese. Exactly what did you expect when you are clearly not modelling healthy behaviours either?
You need to support your daughter in getting some medical help. And perhaps get some for yourself too. Start setting a positive example yourself - you could work on yourselves together.