Taking a 3 year to the hospital to visit a sick family member?

Christina - posted on 08/26/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




We have a family member that is in the hospital, she is 26 and had a stoke and is paralized(hopefully just for now). We want to vist her, but we have a hard time finding a sitter. She is in the hospital almost 2 hours away, so it is hard for me to go one night and my husband to go another. I am nervous about both the germs in the hospital as well as he seeing the person this sick so young. My husband thinks it is a part of life and we should bring her, and that it will even lift the spirits of the family member, which I am sure it will. But I am just afraid it is to much for her to process.

I am looking for suggestions/advice.


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Michelle - posted on 08/26/2012




I had my grandmother in hospital for 6 weeks before she passed and always took my 2.5yo with me. Children are pretty good at lifting the spirits of those that are in hospital. The last time my grandmother saw my daughter she was clapping because my daughter counted to 10 on her own. It let her forget about what she was going through and enjoy the innocence of a child.

At 3 your daughter won't understand what is going on but she will bring joy to your family member.

Anna - posted on 08/26/2012




first of all, sorry to hear about your family member. i hope for you all that it is only temporary.

my partners nephew was really sick in hospital with ALS and i used to take my daughter (3 next month) to visit him and he was hooked up to all sorts of machines. she seemed to look past it all and just see him. i had told her before hand about his illness and the machines, but i think being unaware of how sick he really was made the visits quite simplistic for her and she was able to just be happy to see him and you could see it on his face that it made him happy to see her. she didnt "feel sorry" for him...if you know what i mean.

its totaly up to what you are comfortable with and your daughter probably wont understand it all. if you take her, tell her in your own words what to expect (you dont have to tell her all the ins and outs ofcourse) and be prepared for some questions that she may have on the way home...or even during the visit.

good luck and best wishes to you and your family.

Jodi - posted on 08/26/2012




Can you both go, but just visit her one at a time, while the other stays in the hospital lobby, or nearby play area with your young one, and then you can do a swap? Just remember that young children are also the biggest carriers of germs (yes, the germs from the child are more concerning than the germs in the hospital), and are generally not welcomed around seriously ill patients.

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