Alice - posted on 01/05/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
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The father and I havent spoken since august and my son is turning 7 months now, he and his hole family believe I was cheating on him while we were together and dont believe the child is his. The last we talked he threatened to take me to court ( I realize he was bluffing) but I got scared and said if he didnt believe my son was his I would leave an never come back. I pretty much took the chicken way out but now I feel God is moving me to take him to court and do the right thing by allowing him to see his son. He was a complete jerk, throu my pregnancy an left me mean messages on facebook while his aunt openly claimed her hatred of me on there as well. I got all the evidence of it, but the only thing I'm afraid of is I don't want him taking my child up north with him if I do, he lives over 2 hrs away and I cannot bare to have my child away from me for even a night, he sleeps in bed with me each night and wont sleep with out me so we'd both have fitful nights. Would I be able to get full rights, if I don't ask for child support and be given the authority to be the one to decide when and where visitations would be and have them supervised? He's not on the birth certificate btw and my son does not have his last name.
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I start to roll my eyes when I see the phrase "Baby Daddy", but maybe that's me and maybe I'm showing an "advanced age". In the future, I would use the phrase "baby's father" to refer to the father of your child. Baby Daddy gives the connotation of low-income, trashy, uneducated, etc. and this very well may be the completel opposite. It's just that this phrase "baby daddy" gives that impression. So please do change up that phrase!
1st red flag- Facebook harrassment. Document everything. Copy, paste, print things ups. But in many instances, mean words are simply that: mean words. Unless there is an outright threat, then you may or may not have Facebook harrassment as a tool.
2nd- Is there a court-ordered paternity test? If not, that is the first priority in order to establish parental rights, visitation, and child support.
3rd- If he is deemed to be the chld's parent, the courts will assist you in how to gain child support and visitation.
4th- If the guy genuinely WANTS to be a part of the child's life, (after he is deemed to be the fahter), don't deny him the chance to bond and actually BE a father.
5th- If he truly does NOT want to be the father, seek assistance in legally severing paternal rights away. In the future, you may meet someone who would be head-over-heels in love with your child and you may consider adoption.
Best of luck to you.
Kay - posted on 01/08/2012
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Why would you be afraid for him to take you to court? If you are providing a stable, loving environment for the child, and are a capable provider, your worst case scenario would be that the courts allowed visitation and awarded you child support. For a child that small, I don't think that it would be unreasonable to ask for supervised visitation. I doubt they will accommodate all of the requests that you mentioned because that would seriously limit the father's rights, which wouldn't be fair if he is paying support and adhering to visitation guidelines.
Alice - posted on 01/05/2012
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After I had my son he completely changed and wanted to be involved, which I was perfectly fine with, until his family started switching around my words saying I didn't want any of them to see my son and his aunt claimed she hated both me and him. She even went as far as to call him a little pisser, after that he just flipped out on me and we havent spoken since and he continues to bash me to this day. An ok Sharon, I'll remember that next time, growing up with that term around my friends, it just kinda stuck with me. I just wanna do the right thing because its my sons feelings that matter, if I keep his father out, he'll just end up hating me when he gets older and I don't want that.