Talking to your child about her biological father.

Desimari - posted on 01/29/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My little girl just turned 4 and her bio dad has not been in her life for more than 2 years. I met my fiancé about 2 years ago and she calls him dad. I don't know when is it a good time to talk to her about her bio dad. Her bio dad recently wanted to know about her but I still don't know exactly if now is the right time.

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Sarah - posted on 01/29/2015

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As for if the right time is now to have contact with her bio dad that is something you will have to figure out. In some ways the younger she is the easier it might be on her, but there are many things to take into consideration.

As for when to talk to her about her bio dad.....that should be now. She should always know about her bio dad. It should be something that is open and honest. It does not always have to be talked about, but it should be something that is always a thing that can be talked about and the opportunity should always be there. If you have pictures of him that would be a good way of just having it out there. She does not need to know all the details about him right now. Have a flip book of pictures of people that are in her life, grandparents, even bio grandparents, bio dad, friends, babysitter, etc. Then have that book out where she can look at it and you can talk about who each person is. This lets her know about her bio dad. When she has questions she will ask and then you can talk more about him at that time.

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Desimari - posted on 01/29/2015

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Thank you for your help. I have been thinking about this for almost a month and I don't want to keep it from her and I like the idea of the flip book. I just didn't know how she would understand the whole situation.

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