Teenage sex fiend.

Karen - posted on 06/24/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My grandson is sixteen and thinks he's a man and everytime i turn my back he is in bed with his girlfriend. I don't want him to ruin his life, he is a great kid.His mom passed and i am taking care of him. help


JuLeah - posted on 06/24/2011




He is not a sex fiend, odds are, he is 16. I assume the girl's parents are okay with this; you have spoken with them?
You and talked with both kids about birth control options and STI's? Open honest conversation is very important here ... with both kids, or if you don't wish to speak with her, then her parents' need to .... there can be rules in your house that reflect your comfort level .... he lives in your home and ought to honor your feelings about this ... well, his home too, so his feelings matter too but not mroe then yours

Tamara - posted on 06/24/2011




We made the rule not in our house and taught safe sex, it still happened SO I removed his door, he put the baby gate up to keep the dogs out of there and it stopped happening here. I Do know that it will happen and I can't stop it, I can only educate, give him the tools and pray he makes the right choices.

Jodi - posted on 06/24/2011




Is this happening in your home? Personally, I wouldn't be okay with that either. If it isn't, however, there isn't a great deal you can do about it short of banning him from going anywhere or being with her. I think the BEST thing you can do is educate him, and make sure he is having safe sex. Make it clear to him that you don't condone it, but that you hope he is being careful. Make it clear what your rules are in YOUR house.

Honestly, 16 years olds are having sex. I don't like the idea either, but I think we need to be realistic and recognise that if we can't STOP them having sex at that age, we need to make sure they are doing it safely.


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Jenn - posted on 06/24/2011




I would definitely talk to her parents...I doubt they want to be grandparents too soon! Sounds like your son is being defiant. Did his mom pass away long ago or in recent years? I am very sorry for your loss. He may need counseling if he is still grieving and could possibly be using sex to deal with it (on top of being a typical 16 year old who's now experienced sex). Anyway, setting ground rules is a must and making it very clear what wouldhappenif she got pregnant and what his lifelong responsibility would be.

Katherine - posted on 06/24/2011




I to would set some ground rules. NO SEX in your house. If it happens then he will be not permitted to have his girlfriend over again. I would also talk to her parents and tell him that if continues you will do that.

Also like Jodi said make sure they are practicing safe sex. Is he being defiant about this?

***Edit to add: He probably does need therapy about his mom. This may be his way of dealing with it as Jen said.

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