Teenage son doesn't want to leave his room

Charlotte - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




my teenage son never wants to leave his room and his electronics and his computer. he is constantly hooked into media whenever he is at home. He is visiting with his friends through a device like Skype, but I am wondering why can't he do that in person instead of indirectly through the computer. I am worried about him. He doesn't seemed depressed, but I try to get him out of the house, but when I do, he hurries home to get back on his computer and in his room. Help I am at my wits end.


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Austin - posted on 05/28/2015




Personally I wouldn't take away anything from him at all. I'm not even a mom but yeah i'm 16 years old past 4 years I've spent 90% of my free time in my bedroom why? Because I've played a game for the past 8 years that has enhanced my typing skills and grammar skills... To me family time isn't really important doesn't really teach you anything but if you play an online game where you are surrounded by a bunch of players 19 in this case to help defeat a common goal you can really enhance your team working skills... I know what you're thinking OH he's spent his last 4 years in his room he's 300 lbs overweight, that's not true though I run outside ride my bike around. Most parents over exaggerate their kids time in their room. I may stay in my room for 90% of the time, on weekends I won't leave my room except for the restroom pretty bad huh? But i'll come out eventually for an hour or two to say hi. another reason why you shouldn't is because if they schedule something in game and you intervene you're pretty much saying it's okay to skip school and jobs in the future because they are scheduled right? I play world of warcraft and I forfeited my Tuesdays and Thursdays from my family not like they really have to talk to me for any reason in the first place but i do stuff with other players that i enjoy doing with them well they are my friends after all from 7-11 p.m. every night. I also know what you're thinking. Oh your parents are irresponsible and your grades are probably crap, well that's also wrong it took awhile to get my parents to finally give up on me getting out of my room and for grades I got nothing but A's do i study? Of course not. Do I do my homework? eventually. To cut short it isn't all that bad just don't let your child get overweight unhealthy if he already is it doesn't really matter in the first place. Parental Controls are just flat out annoying and are easily bypassed - Also very intellectual with computers I've fixed many... Well there are exceptions don't let an 8 year old on the computer that's just stupid anything under 12 shouldn't honestly that just bugs other people when they don't know what they are doing lets be honest here...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/13/2014




There is a really neat thing called a power cord. They can be disconnected from both the wall, and the device. Start there.

YOu have the power to limit the access time on his electronics as well. Open the parental controls, and set time limits on him. There is no reason for him to be a hermit. Yep, my kid would have liked to try that as well, but he had limits, and he knew I'd enforce them. Both my kids have/had their own electronics, and both do/did very well with the restrictions as I outlined them (I've got the different qualifications because one is no longer at home, as he's now an adult, but he still adheres to the limitations he had at home)

So, remove the electronics from his room, set parental controls on them, limit access to them in a public area of your home. He'll be pissy, but YOU are the parent. Not him.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/13/2014




I do not feel teenagers should have a computer in their room.....that is dangerous for MANY reasons. It should be in a community room of the house where you always have access to what he is looking at or who he is conversing with.

If you are concerned about all this, you must put limits on his electronic time. You are the parent and can control this. He will indeed be pissed. Start scheduling family time, and dinners. Good luck.

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