teenage son stealing

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Michelle - posted on 03/10/2018

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Sebinsd: Your grandson didn't steal at all, you gave him your card willingly.
Of course you giving him your card wouldn't teach him about money, he didn't have to work for the money to be able to spend it!
You are very naive in the way you are treating him.

Sebinsd - posted on 02/04/2018

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My 9 yr old grandson has started stealing from me, i havent been well so started giving him my debit card when his dad took him out shopping, thinking that it would help him understand money management and such. Well it backfired on me and he began getting cashback at self checkout, even purchasing lottery tickets, and bc i trusted him i had no idewa this was happening for nearly a mmonth til i received the bank statement. I have shown him the records yet he still denies it, so im essentially talking to a brick wall. He seems to think that if he denies it then it never happened, and it seems to be working to his advantagebc as long as he acts like it didnt happen he doesnt have to deal with any consequences. I couldnt firgure out what to do, then remembered how my sister dealt with the problem when her daughter was caught stealing at a local store. She was only 14, and the city of Tempe, AZ had a program where kids had to attend a mock courthouse set up for youngsters to address this problem b4 it evolved into a severe pattern of behavior when they entered adulthood. They had to perform some tasks as well as write apology letters and an essay on their experience, etc. I dont recall the details but i know it worked, ie. my niece never stold again, and went on to become a hard working, law abiding adult who we have much respect for now. Hopefully we can nip this in the bud b4 our kids are her age, however if not it would be helpful if there were resources to help us, perhaps set up by the schools, where the issue was dealt with in a formal setting where kids might take it more seriously, perhaps involving the counseling system? I know i never should have given my grandson the responsibility of using my debit card in the first place, and realize it was i who provided the opportunity for him to steal in the first place.But now what is done is done and i have to deal with the situation i've created.

Michelle - posted on 03/07/2015

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