Teenager invaded my privacy!

Mary - posted on 12/15/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 15.year old daughter read my text messages with the man I'm dating. Yes, I feel foolish for not having it locked. Although we don't have overnight visits during any of my time with her, on the weeks she's gone I often go to his house to stay. The texts aren't racey or raunchy, but still there are references to the nights we spend together. She doesn't know that I know she's read them. An older daughter told me. Should I confront her? I try to set a good example for my girls, there are four. I'm in a committed relationship with this man but didn't want to share details with my daughter! Now I feel like any moral issues I try to discuss with her will be met with sarcasm and disdain. I've certainly crossed the "Do as I say, not as I do" line now. Advice please?


Barbara - posted on 12/15/2014




and I'm sorry. First you need to teach her about privacy and limits for all electronic devices. YOU need to Demand her Respect, period. Sounds like punishment is in order. During this punishment period (maybe schedule mandatory 15 minute sessions with Mom as part of the punishment) I hope you can teach her:
everyone deserves privacy
how would she feel if you read her electronic stuff
and finish that with " I haven't read your stuff because I trust you and I respect your right to privacy"
Do focus on the respect part, she is going to need that very soon with pressure from boys and yes, girls to compromise herself online.

Good Luck!!
Barb aka Ponytailmom

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