Teenager wanting to get married

Dakota - posted on 06/21/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )




My daughter Mandie wants to get married at 17! I said no sweetie your to young and then she gets my mother involved my moms name is Letty: she said this "Dakota you are no longer in charge of Amanda! She is 17 and a half no 5 and a half anymore! She can do what ever with her life now"! I said she has to be 18 not 17 and a half! Well now she is marrying secretly moms I need help so badly



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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/23/2014




Dakota, it's time to get off the computer, apologize to your mother for being a disrespectful teenager, and find something constructive to do...

Angela - posted on 06/23/2014




Dakota, 2 days ago you were 27 and Mandie was 13 (and her name was spelled "Mandy" rather than "Mandie") - and she didn't even LIKE her grandma! Also you were heavily pregnant.

And apparently you're a triplet ..... (I gleaned all this from the post Jodi supplied a link to!

I judge you to be about 13 or 14 yourself. And you're living in a fantasy land.

Bored today, were we?

I'm genuinely asking you this question here - are you a freaking nutcase? These OTT posts you're making scream of far more than attention-seeking adolescent to be honest.

Sorry I wasted my time responding to your post yesterday.

Have a nice life.

Gena - posted on 06/23/2014




I dont know where you live, but in the country where i live with my family, a person must be 18 to get married. Have you talked to your daughter and her boyfriend and asked them why they are in such a rush to get married? How old is the boyfriend?Have they both finished school/study? Do they have jobs and an income? A place to live together? Thats all things you should talk to her about. And also try to tell her to wait.She is young. My Aunt and Uncle got together when they were 16..they are now 40 and married since 10yrs. Its not that she has to get married straight away.If i were you i would sit down with her and talk to her what marriage is about.

Cathy - posted on 06/23/2014




You probably should sit down with her boyfriend and your daughter and them know how it's going to be .She is to young to marry,She should really get to know him for about a year to see if he is the one she wants to marry.She thinks financially it's going to be easy.

Angela - posted on 06/21/2014




H'mmm well this begs the question:

Would you support her in the decision if she was 18 now?

Because I suspect this is not about age, but rather because age is a convenient excuse for a whole host of other reasons - which are probably ALL extremely valid!

* her own personal maturity
* her ability to live as an adult and support herself
* whether she's finished her full-time education yet
* whether the guy she's wanting to marry is mature and responsible
* whether either of them have jobs that will sustain a life independent of parents

Also, what is the rush here? Is she pregnant or something?

You need to talk this over with your daughter and with your own mother. Is there a reason why your mother supports your daughter's decision against you? Do HIS parents support them getting married?

Ev - posted on 06/21/2014




Well, Dakota, your mom, Letty, in a sense could be right. In some states it is legal to get married under 18 without parents consent though I would think that your child would at the least want your blessings on this. Yes, she is too young but at this age kids think they know and understand the world that they live in when they do not. They are not going to listen to us because "they know it all already" and I have been there although my one kid was 21 at the time and was trying to convince them to wait on things. It did not happen but they are managing things. All you can do is find out the legal age to marry without parental consent and then go from there.

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