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Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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i have been there seen it got the t shirt......you poor things my daughters are now 23 and 20 there is nothing worst than 2 teenagers with pmt let me tell u..............i use to say to my girls dont b...s...t a b..ll...s..tter it was not that long ago i was doing the same things as you....come on ladies u can not say u didnt pull the same stunts as ur kids are the only difference between us and our kids is we had less and had more respect for authority and our elders i have grounded my girls taken there mobiles {i think in america u call then cell phones} taken them to school and picked them up taken their tvs from there rooms and steros u name it i have done it to no avail.......even given them extra chores.  it came to a stage where i loved them because they where my kids but i did not like them.   then i changed tact tics.  if i asked on off them to do somethink and they argued i would just say in a calm voice ok thats fine and did it myself if i told them not to do something and they continued i would walk away and coukd not handle the fact there was no reaction from me. this went on for a while may be a couple of months when i told them to be in at 9 they would push there luck and come home at 10 i did not call them i made out i went to bed but was watching for them out of the window as soon as i heard the key in the door i would jump into bed they would come in to my room and say mum i home i would just say what ever. after a couple of times off doing this they whre new late again if my girls drank whilst they where out i would not react though inside i wanted to strangle them one daughter did it twicw the other did it once and neither drink alcahol now the hardest thing to do is to make out u dont care but honestly it works they wait for you to react and feed on your reaction my elest is now a mother of 3 girls ages 5 3 and1 so i am just sitting back and gloating lol pay back lol my daughter also is a florist and works full time my second daughter is now 20 still at home no kids and is a police officer though i have a 13 yr old son and he is nothing like the girls where he is a good boy his sisters put him on the right track good luck mums of teenagers though u may not belive me things do get better and i am sure you will all be proud of your little darlings one day just as i am



sharon



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Irene - posted on 02/11/2009

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I don't have teens yet, but the website focus on the family really helps me with problems that I have with my children.  I also get on my knees and pray lot's and try to gain wisdom from the Lord from reading his word's in the bible.  1800-New Life is also a great resource.  Hope this helps and bring blessings to your life and peace through your trials.

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Emma - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have 2 teenage sons and a girl, 14 13 and 6 years old My 14 years old has learnt that if he does as hes told he gets what he wants, within reason, whereas my 13 year old is the opposite. we row we take away xbox etc etc but that dont work. He lies about homework has no care in the world that hes doing detentions, in fact i think he likes them he has them so much lol. But what i found has worked is phoning his school and asking for him to be put on report This report has to be signed every lunch time and after school by his head of house. he has 3 rules, to attend school neatly, to behave in all lessons and to complete all class work and homework on time. Its amazing how much better he does, if he scores below a 3 he loses a day on his xbox. This has worked as he only gets the odd detention, his classwork and homework has improved etc.

Liz - posted on 02/14/2009

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Yeah - I thought my divorce was hell - but my teenagers are beating that helpless, hopeless, oh my god where did I go wrong feeling - hands down!! Words cannot describe my love for them but there are days....................

Angie - posted on 02/14/2009

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My son is 16 and a dream. No trouble - yet. We just moved him from Arizona to Wyoming and even though he misses home he knows this was for the best, the education is much better. He'll be driving as soon as I can get him to the DMV to get his license. Straight A student (but hates school - not sure why), plays basketball, soccer, and runs. He'll be starting college classes in the Fall at this high school. He enjoys going to church and loves his youth group.

Annette - posted on 02/13/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Yes....16 yr old daughter who thinks that her life should be none of my business.





 

Annette - posted on 02/13/2009

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mine are just coming out of being teenages and I can say my 2 girls weren't much problems, 1smoked at 14 the rotten age but when she got a boyfriend at 17 he got her away from it, The other girl doesn't want to talk to any one unless it is her boyfriend she is 18, She just tells me I don't understand her all the time, But my son OMG he was broght home by the police for drink and sleeping in the park, He constantly yells at me. Last August he had 3 fits in on hour from smoking too much pot he tells me how much he hates me and hasn't talked to me for over 2 months and is packing to move to another state and says he is not going to tell me when he is going. I am just watching the suitcase. I love him but what else can I do?

Cathy - posted on 02/13/2009

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Focus on the Family by James Dobson is really good, he has writen many books too, one of them to do with bringing up teens. I got a few good ideas from his book. One of them was I told my kids that if I ever get a call from the school about their bad behaviour I would take a day off work, and spend the whole day at school with them, when they pull up a chair, I will pull one up next to them, when they go to the play ground to meet their friends, I will be there right next to them. If they cannot behave on their own then their friends will have to see that they still need mum to train them. My kids new that I was not joking, and that I would really do that. My son is finished with school and my daughter is in her last year and I have never been called in for bad behaviour.

We are a Christian family, and God promises in his word that if you bring up your children in the way that they should go, then they will never part from it. I have stood on that promise, and pray for my children everyday. my son is going 20 this year and my daughter is going 18, and I do not have any problems with them. They do not drink, smoke or take drugs. I am blessed with 2 wonderful kids. They do get cheeky at times, but before long they will come and say sorry and ask for forgivness. My kids are not angels, they do have days where they do not obey, and refuse to do certain things, but I have always made sure we have an open and honest relationship, and I listen to what they have to say. Teens like to be treated as young adults, with love and respect, and trust. Warn them that if they ever break that trust then you will not be able to trust them again. there is always consequinces to their actions. They need to think things through very carefully before they do anything.

To all the mums out there with young children, start training your little ones in the way way that they should go and you will have less hassles when they are teens. If you do not know God yet, then now is a good time to get to know him. I do not want to preach to you mums, I just want to help. You cannot do it on your own, you need God and his book of instructuons ( the Bible) to do it. Remember God is the one who created us, so He knows exactly what our needs are. You might ask "well why did he not give me an angel"? Nobody is born an angel everyone one of us are sinful everyday, it is up to us as parents to seek Gods wisdom in how to bring up our children. God is not a forceful God, he is waiting for you to ask him for help, and so ready to give you the wisdom and guidens.

If there is anyone out there that does not know God yet and wants to get to know him, you can email me and I will help you.

As for the mums with teens that are already rebelious, turn to God, he will help you and give you wisdom. every child is diffirent and unique, Pray and focus on their possitive and not the negetive. As I have said I have not had that problem so I cannot say I know what you going through, but as a mother I can just imagine how you must be feeling. It is every mums dream for their child to excel in school. My heart goes out to you mums, that is why I so want to help you where I can. I work with young children, and I love them, they are a gift from God. I hope I have been of some help. I am praying for you. God bless.

Tamara - posted on 02/13/2009

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Yes....16 yr old daughter who thinks that her life should be none of my business.

Kristin - posted on 02/13/2009

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Quoting Paula:

Hi, I have a only child who is 13 going on 23. Glad to have a place to vent with other moms of teenagers. I want my daughter back!



Hi Paula, I'm a Mother of an only child, a 14 year old daughter, going on 23 as well.  As far as the age struggle, they see so much and are exposed to so much more than we were at their age that its quite natural to want to grow up fast.  It places us in a difficult position becasue we are the ones who have to hold them back.  Many days I'm the "bad guy" but its for her own good.  It's funny though, not long after she's displayed her extreme disappointment in my rules, she begins to talk to me as if nothing had happened.  Although they would never admit how much they rely on us, they do.  Because they do not have siblings, we are a main source of strength and security for them.  I have discovered the importance of spending time with her by ourselves.  Carving out a dinner together during the week or just the two of us going for a bike ride...even shopping by ourselves every now and then (without her friends) is healthy.  It keeps me in "the loop".  She talks about things I never knew were so important to her.  I recently read the book "The Love Languages of a Teenager".  It was great insight into her teenage mind.  Good luck!!!

Renee - posted on 02/13/2009

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oh yah...i got 2 sons...one is 16 and other is 13! My 16 yr old son goes to school and works on the farm on weekends. He loves it. My 13 yr son loves English and Art. He doesn't work on weekends except his chores are mainly at home whatever I give him. He brings on the drama king at times. *rolls her eyes* Also I have a daughter she is 6. She is the fun one. She absolutely drives her brothers crazy! Especially when my 16 yr old is dating now...rofl

Angel - posted on 02/13/2009

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Thank you guys all for responding....i iknow i was not the perfect kid...but didnt trun out that bad....i just want the light bulb to go off in her head....i dont want her to fall in the system...and be just another number.....any other advice is greatly appricated i will keep all you guys posted on the road i am not traveling....

Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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i have been there seen it got the t shirt......you poor things my daughters are now 23 and 20 there is nothing worst than 2 teenagers with pmt let me tell u..............i use to say to my girls dont b...s...t a b..ll...s..tter it was not that long ago i was doing the same things as you....come on ladies u can not say u didnt pull the same stunts as ur kids are the only difference between us and our kids is we had less and had more respect for authority and our elders i have grounded my girls taken there mobiles {i think in america u call then cell phones} taken them to school and picked them up taken their tvs from there rooms and steros u name it i have done it to no avail.......even given them extra chores.  it came to a stage where i loved them because they where my kids but i did not like them.   then i changed tact tics.  if i asked on off them to do somethink and they argued i would just say in a calm voice ok thats fine and did it myself if i told them not to do something and they continued i would walk away and coukd not handle the fact there was no reaction from me. this went on for a while may be a couple of months when i told them to be in at 9 they would push there luck and come home at 10 i did not call them i made out i went to bed but was watching for them out of the window as soon as i heard the key in the door i would jump into bed they would come in to my room and say mum i home i would just say what ever. after a couple of times off doing this they whre new late again if my girls drank whilst they where out i would not react though inside i wanted to strangle them one daughter did it twicw the other did it once and neither drink alcahol now the hardest thing to do is to make out u dont care but honestly it works they wait for you to react and feed on your reaction my elest is now a mother of 3 girls ages 5 3 and1 so i am just sitting back and gloating lol pay back lol my daughter also is a florist and works full time my second daughter is now 20 still at home no kids and is a police officer though i have a 13 yr old son and he is nothing like the girls where he is a good boy his sisters put him on the right track good luck mums of teenagers though u may not belive me things do get better and i am sure you will all be proud of your little darlings one day just as i am



sharon



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Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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Quoting Rachel:



Well  ladies....I was a very hard Teen...I left home at 16 and never turned back...BUT...I had enough brains instilled in me by my parents..to finish school and work for a living... I got pregnant on the PILL at 18 and had twins!!! (who knew that smoking declines the pill??? I quite smoking for my pregnancy!! and my babies)  We had beautiful girls in 1990 and we got married 2 months later...not a happy ending for our marriage..but we raised our girls!!! and gave them the best we could!!! today I have two beautiful girls that are going to be going to college this year and I became a Grandmother on April 15th 2008!  He is the JOY of our lives!!    It's stessful..cause you think...and want more..but we all had our times when we were their age...we all try so hard...and no one is perfect..what matters is we are alive and we have eachother...My cousin's daughter and her best friend went missing last September 2008 (16 yrs old)  ..they have been all over the NEWS..and she (my cousin's daughter...and her friend) have not been found!!!  I Love for the moment and for the times we have together as a family.

Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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i have read the web page and i was very touched god bless u and ur family i will pray for their speedy return



sharon from london

Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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Quoting Rachel:



Well  ladies....I was a very hard Teen...I left home at 16 and never turned back...BUT...I had enough brains instilled in me by my parents..to finish school and work for a living... I got pregnant on the PILL at 18 and had twins!!! (who knew that smoking declines the pill??? I quite smoking for my pregnancy!! and my babies)  We had beautiful girls in 1990 and we got married 2 months later...not a happy ending for our marriage..but we raised our girls!!! and gave them the best we could!!! today I have two beautiful girls that are going to be going to college this year and I became a Grandmother on April 15th 2008!  He is the JOY of our lives!!    It's stessful..cause you think...and want more..but we all had our times when we were their age...we all try so hard...and no one is perfect..what matters is we are alive and we have eachother...My cousin's daughter and her best friend went missing last September 2008 (16 yrs old)  ..they have been all over the NEWS..and she (my cousin's daughter...and her friend) have not been found!!!  I Love for the moment and for the times we have together as a family.

Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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i have been there seen it got the t shirt......you poor things my daughters are now 23 and 20 there is nothing worst than 2 teenagers with pmt let me tell u..............i use to say to my girls dont b...s...t a b..ll...s..tter it was not that long ago i was doing the same things as you....come on ladies u can not say u didnt pull the same stunts as ur kids are the only difference between us and our kids is we had less and had more respect for authority and our elders i have grounded my girls taken there mobiles {i think in america u call then cell phones} taken them to school and picked them up taken their tvs from there rooms and steros u name it i have done it to no avail.......even given them extra chores.  it came to a stage where i loved them because they where my kids but i did not like them.   then i changed tact tics.  if i asked on off them to do somethink and they argued i would just say in a calm voice ok thats fine and did it myself if i told them not to do something and they continued i would walk away and coukd not handle the fact there was no reaction from me. this went on for a while may be a couple of months when i told them to be in at 9 they would push there luck and come home at 10 i did not call them i made out i went to bed but was watching for them out of the window as soon as i heard the key in the door i would jump into bed they would come in to my room and say mum i home i would just say what ever. after a couple of times off doing this they whre new late again if my girls drank whilst they where out i would not react though inside i wanted to strangle them one daughter did it twicw the other did it once and neither drink alcahol now the hardest thing to do is to make out u dont care but honestly it works they wait for you to react and feed on your reaction my elest is now a mother of 3 girls ages 5 3 and1 so i am just sitting back and gloating lol pay back lol my daughter also is a florist and works full time my second daughter is now 20 still at home no kids and is a police officer though i have a 13 yr old son and he is nothing like the girls where he is a good boy his sisters put him on the right track good luck mums of teenagers though u may not belive me things do get better and i am sure you will all be proud of your little darlings one day just as i am



sharon



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Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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i have been there seen it got the t shirt......you poor things my daughters are now 23 and 20 there is nothing worst than 2 teenagers with pmt let me tell u..............i use to say to my girls dont b...s...t a b..ll...s..tter it was not that long ago i was doing the same things as you....come on ladies u can not say u didnt pull the same stunts as ur kids are the only difference between us and our kids is we had less and had more respect for authority and our elders i have grounded my girls taken there mobiles {i think in america u call then cell phones} taken them to school and picked them up taken their tvs from there rooms and steros u name it i have done it to no avail.......even given them extra chores.  it came to a stage where i loved them because they where my kids but i did not like them.   then i changed tact tics.  if i asked on off them to do somethink and they argued i would just say in a calm voice ok thats fine and did it myself if i told them not to do something and they continued i would walk away and coukd not handle the fact there was no reaction from me. this went on for a while may be a couple of months when i told them to be in at 9 they would push there luck and come home at 10 i did not call them i made out i went to bed but was watching for them out of the window as soon as i heard the key in the door i would jump into bed they would come in to my room and say mum i home i would just say what ever. after a couple of times off doing this they whre new late again if my girls drank whilst they where out i would not react though inside i wanted to strangle them one daughter did it twicw the other did it once and neither drink alcahol now the hardest thing to do is to make out u dont care but honestly it works they wait for you to react and feed on your reaction my elest is now a mother of 3 girls ages 5 3 and1 so i am just sitting back and gloating lol pay back lol my daughter also is a florist and works full time my second daughter is now 20 still at home no kids and is a police officer though i have a 13 yr old son and he is nothing like the girls where he is a good boy his sisters put him on the right track good luck mums of teenagers though u may not belive me things do get better and i am sure you will all be proud of your little darlings one day just as i am



sharon



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Sandy - posted on 02/12/2009

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Oh Angel I feel soooo sorry for you,, I have been there so know its hard,, I bought my 7 kids up solo so had to be really tough I have cried myself to sleep worrying where they will end up but never let them see how I was hurting,, maybe i was wrong but I kept on being tough on the outside,, its not about trying things then backing down,, honestly its about sticking to your word,, I never break a promise so if when they were small I said if they misbehaved they would get punished then they were punished or if they were good rewarded,, It really takes forever but you mustnt back down... I'm sure you have tried all the tricks in the book she knows she is hurting others,, really she does but right now she doesnt much care so dont go for the sympathy vote thats for adults, those with a conscience, not stroppy teenage hell raisers.. let your husband to be be the 'bootcamp' sergeant,, these military men know how to tame head strong kids you just be there to keep on loving her

Angel - posted on 02/12/2009

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Quoting Sandy:

no not boot camp,, she is just looking for attention and finding it,, my daughter who is now 16 played the same old game,, I just said ok fine quit school,, be a bum,, I will always be here but I'm not chasing after you anymore,, and then I put all her clothes in a black bin bag left her with just her pjs so she couldnt go out,, the thing is you are the adult what you say goes,, kids will try to rule [we all did] but honestly if you stick to your word, dont nag just say NO, then talk about something else in the end they will settle down,, mine did and is doing real well in school now,, had a lot of catching up to do but she did it



Sandy i did all that you are telling me....she just dont seem to get it all all....she wants to do what she wants to do and that is the bottom line...yes i did a lot of things growing up and have paid a very heavy price , lost my mom when i was twenty, never got to tell  her i was sorry it was all too last .....my husband to be is miltary raised so we fight alot over the puinshment issues and see things really different....he sticks to his word i always give in i know that is my weekness....but she needs to realize she is not just hurting herself she is hurting the ones that loves her....right now her understanding is out of the window...she is mixied and i know she is haveing a indenty issues trying to find where she belongs...but i have always told them both my girls that they  have to accept there self before anyone will accept them....i am trying i really am

Sandy - posted on 02/12/2009

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no not boot camp,, she is just looking for attention and finding it,, my daughter who is now 16 played the same old game,, I just said ok fine quit school,, be a bum,, I will always be here but I'm not chasing after you anymore,, and then I put all her clothes in a black bin bag left her with just her pjs so she couldnt go out,, the thing is you are the adult what you say goes,, kids will try to rule [we all did] but honestly if you stick to your word, dont nag just say NO, then talk about something else in the end they will settle down,, mine did and is doing real well in school now,, had a lot of catching up to do but she did it

Angel - posted on 02/12/2009

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someone please help me...i have a 14 yr old girl who decieded to skip school today she does not listen to me are her step dad ....she has the best life that any teenager can have but refuse to do what is asked  of her...she has been put out of school last year and i moved her to a different school this year...i thought things were getting better but here we are again in this same hole....i spend all my extra time with her and her sister...being a single mom and working two jobs is not easy when i  have to make ends meet ....i do belong to a church and none of this  makes any sence to her.....is boot camp my next option/

Michele - posted on 02/12/2009

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I have a 14 year old and have been pretty lucky so far. He gives me little trouble and we have a great relationship. One thing that helps me is to try to relate to him and REMEMBER what it was like being his age. I was a wild child and I know all of the tricks and he knows that he can't get away with things with me! But I try to let him express himself somewhat. I am interested in his friends and what happens at school and try to not judge his feelings and the things he tells me. On the other hand, I give him guidance and tell him how things might work out better for him if he tries a different approach. I know he won't tell me everything, but I try to allow open communication as much as possible. I hope this may be somewhat helpful to some of you. I know teenagers have a mind of their own and sometimes no matter what you do, they will rebel. Hopefully, you can instill enough morals into them that when they finally grow up, they will become good adults.

Katy - posted on 02/12/2009

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I have a 14.5 year old boy who is a freshman in high school.
We had lots of problems with him in middle school, with not doing homework, lying about homework, getting in trouble with a few teachers for no homework. We moved the summer between 8th & 9th grade. So new school, new kids, etc.
My husband & I sat him down and said that he's going to find he has the ability to have all kinds of new freedoms, like friends with cars for example. We said we will give him all the freedom he wants, with boundaries of course, as long as he keeps his grades at A's & B's, stays out of trouble & doesn't do anything stupid. So far, so good!
We are also very active in our church & he got really into the teen program they have. He also decided to join a Christian after-school club & he also attends a home-group through our church for young men. I've never seen him flourish so well! He has more friends now than ever! I think my only complaint is his occasion mouthiness, but I guess that's not much of a complaint!

Rachel - posted on 02/11/2009

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Well  ladies....I was a very hard Teen...I left home at 16 and never turned back...BUT...I had enough brains instilled in me by my parents..to finish school and work for a living... I got pregnant on the PILL at 18 and had twins!!! (who knew that smoking declines the pill??? I quite smoking for my pregnancy!! and my babies)  We had beautiful girls in 1990 and we got married 2 months later...not a happy ending for our marriage..but we raised our girls!!! and gave them the best we could!!! today I have two beautiful girls that are going to be going to college this year and I became a Grandmother on April 15th 2008!  He is the JOY of our lives!!    It's stessful..cause you think...and want more..but we all had our times when we were their age...we all try so hard...and no one is perfect..what matters is we are alive and we have eachother...My cousin's daughter and her best friend went missing last September 2008 (16 yrs old)  ..they have been all over the NEWS..and she (my cousin's daughter...and her friend) have not been found!!!  I Love for the moment and for the times we have together as a family.

Angel - posted on 02/11/2009

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yes i have a 14 year old and i dont know what to do with her....do you have any ideas...she just dose not care about anything and think the world revolves around her...whats gong on with your teenager?

Hayley - posted on 02/11/2009

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yeah i have a 18 year old,a 17 year old. a 14 year old.and a 11 year old and im 36 madness

User - posted on 02/11/2009

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yea, a seventeen year old girl and a 14 year old boy and last but not least a 10 year old boy and the fighting never stops. what is your household like?

Lynne - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hi Soraya, yes, I have an 18 year old girl and a 14 year old boy.

Its fun isn't it.

Rita - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hi there, I too have teenagers, my eldest is 18 and 16. My daughter is 12 and my little boy is 5. I'm going to university this year and I'm wondering how on earth I'm going to manage everything!

Holly - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hello,



My name is Holly. I have 4 children all together but 2 are teens. I have Nick who is 18 & Katie who is 15. If you want, write to me and we can chat.

Sandy - posted on 02/11/2009

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HEY this teenage years only last a while,,lets face it just a few years ago [well about 30] they would have left school at 15 and be 'out there' now they are expected to be children until 20. doh the kids need to be allowed to make choices and mistakes like me and other older parents did. responsibility has been taken away from them,, allow them to make mistakes and PAY for them theirselves. my older kids are great and my 4 teenagers are learning that they must choose the road I will not bail them out,, things are going good. do not cry in front of your kids it is not fair, hormones are racing and screaming round their bodies build a wall they can charge against but do not move let them know the rules

Sandy - posted on 02/11/2009

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I HAVE 4 TEENAGE KIDS AND 3 OLDER ONES SO HAVE 'BEEN THERE DONE THAT' IT CAN BE GOOD AND ON THE OTHER HAND IT WILL BE AMAZINGLY BAD... FUN BEING A MUM HEY

Heather - posted on 02/11/2009

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I have a 14 almost 15 year old boy. It has been challenging at times and really awesome at other times. Why do you ask?

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I have a 17 (18 in May ) and 15 (16 in June) both girls.  In addition to a 5 and 2 year old boys.

Paula - posted on 02/11/2009

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In my daughters High School here on Long Island. We have a program called the Parent Portal. You can log on everyday to see your childs assignments, tests quizzes etc. Your able to know the grades and if the homework was handed in. I love it. It helps to stay on top of her. I am able to question her right away about a missing assignment and get if rectified. You should suggest it at a school board meeting. Get some info on the program. Im sure there are plenty of parents in your district that would embrace the program. Good luck, never give up!

Felecia - posted on 02/11/2009

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I am going to need to keep in touch with you because I am at the stage with my 11-year-old of not bringing the book home and not getting it signed. I am at my wits end and called the local counseling service to find options of schools to put him in to control this behavior. There are no drugs yet and he is not on genius level but he is up there and testing on high school levels for reading and mastery on state school administered test at the age of 10.



Please find my page and give me any advice you can......just hearing your trials and tribulations is helping.

Shari - posted on 02/11/2009

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I have a 15 year old daughter who is a drama queen. She has concerns anyway because she also has ADHD. She is a good kid, but very emotional and needs guidance when it comes to relationships. Her grades need work, but the school is helping us with this.

Paula - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hi, I have a only child who is 13 going on 23. Glad to have a place to vent with other moms of teenagers. I want my daughter back!

Felecia - posted on 02/11/2009

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I truly feel for you, and you are doing the right thing by getting her counseling. Make sure that after a session or two she is comfortable with the counselor because if she isn't, it won't help her.



I moved from the metropolitan D.C. area because of problems like that. My daughter was to go to the middle school next door which had a website with girls pictures and why everyone should beat them up. She wasn't on the list but I wasn't going to let her be and moved back home to WV.



Along with counseling, she needs a friend, even if it is not at her school. You might be surprised how at least one good and true friend would help.

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Yes,-I also have a 14 year old son. I keep my eyes and ears open to any helpful ideas. Everything from study habits to monitoring all of the electronic media we have in the house :)

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I have a 13 yr old daughter who is the victim of internet bullying and harrassment - and believe it or not these bullies are in her form at school.  This is now being investigated by the school, who are doing an amazing job.  I just feel so so sorry for her, she has cried for a week, she hasn't eaten or drunk anything and she is making herself ill.



Im going to get her some counselling and with the Doc's help maybe we can overcome this crisis in her life.  So much for School friends!

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