Temper Tantrums at 2am - EVERY MORNING

Mia - posted on 06/28/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi Everyone, I am new here and struggling as my son Leo whose 10 months old has huge temper tantrums at 2am or 3am every morning and only goes to bed at 11pm or later as he will throw more tantrums if he has to go to bed any earlier.

He has been walking since 8 months, has two teeth and yes I know he's teething yet there should be no reason for him screaming so that the entire street can hear (he's THAT loud) He doesn't have gas, colic, pain. To me (I am a Psychiatrist) he is having tantrums as he simply doesn't want to be in bed, yet he's tired.

We live in an apartment and can't just let him cry it out every morning and it's got to the stage where I am crying uncontrollably and can't even function the next day as I am on 3-4 hours of broken sleep a night with a tantrum that lasts 2 hours each day.

This is one of many tantrums in the day - they can range now over a toy being taken away, any item we have that he wants and he can't get and having to go into his pram - all end in a screaming fit where he goes blue in the face and starts scratching my face, his face or throws whatever is around at me.

He slept through as a newborn to a 5 month old, then since then he wakes up 2-3 times a night with these temper tantrums. Has anyone experienced this? Have you realised that there is or isn't anything to do to help this?

I know I am a good mother yet we all need rest and without it we can't function. It's 2am writing this so it's getting harder and harder each day.

Any advice?


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Mia - posted on 06/28/2014




Hi Lori,

Thanks for your comments... Leo is highly intelligent and does want a rise out of us; he will look at us and if he doesn't get the response he wants, he will throw a huge tantrum. Most children start tantrums any time from 9 months to 2 years, depending on their social skill spectrum and these are definitely tantrums about going to bed, as he has the same routine and knows what bed is.

We have co slept since he was a newborn (I am Danish so it's our culture to do so) and even this isn't working yet when he finally does sleep he gets a good 3-4 hours straight with us and demands to be in a certain position otherwise he won't sleep. We are moving into our new house in a few weeks after settlement and we will try him crying it out controlled for a while to see if this helps him understand he won't get an emotional response from us... tough gig being a mama.

Lori - posted on 06/28/2014




tantrums like this sound more like a 2 year old. not a 10 month old.

Usually disturbances in sleep the first year are due to physical reasons - physically not ready to sleep yet, learning new skills, teething pain, or other reasons. Certainly that doesn't mean he can learn behaviors that get him attention… but I'd investigate other reasons first. He's only 10 month old. He's not trying to manipulate you, he's trying to get his needs met.

I was having some huge sleep issues with my first daughter. I finally "gave in" and started letting her sleep in my bed. The night waking stopped, the screaming in the middle of the night stopped, and the whole family started getting more sleep. She was a happier baby/toddler during the day too.

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