Tenneager girl 16

Nora - posted on 01/25/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )




what to do if her school friend (a boy) invite her to his house


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/26/2015




What are your rules?

If you haven't come up with any, may I suggest that now is the time?

For example: Parents must be present, children must only be allowed into common, supervised areas, etc.

When my sons would bring a female friend over, we always made sure that a parent was on site. Not just 'around', but visible. We did allow them to go into separate rooms, but no closed doors, and again, the parent at home was visible.

So far...LOL...two boys, lots of female friends over, no grandchildren... ;-)

Sarah - posted on 01/25/2015




My daughter is 15, she has a boy that she likes. The feeling is mutual. The only time they are permitted to spend alone together is at our home, when I am here to monitor them. She has never given me a reason to not trust her.

Dove - posted on 01/25/2015




JUST him? I'd say no. Period. They can hang out together in public.

If you know him and he seems like a good kid and his parents will be there and it's a small group vs. one on one... I'd certainly consider it. My 13 year old daughter has a good group of male and female friends (several of the guys are younger brothers of the girl friends) and they all hang out together. I've never had a reason to be concerned yet.

Ev - posted on 01/25/2015




Do you know this boy well? Have you met the parents of this boy? What are your expectations if she were to go there?

I would first met his parents if you do not know them. I would plan a meeting with them and tell them what your expectations are if she visits.

If it were my daughter this is what I would ask to be done while she is there:
1) No being allowed to be unsupervised in his room and if they are in there they need to have the door open.
2) One of his parents should be in the home during the vists.
3) Set up expected rules for her to follow such as time frame to be there and come home by, that she have homework/chores done before she can go and the phone number of his folks and himself.
4) If that is not agreeable with them, then you have him come over so you can keep an eye on them so nothing happens for them to get into trouble.

Sarah - posted on 01/25/2015




What have your rules about dating been up until now? Have you met the boy? Have you met his family? Will his parents be home?

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