terrible 2....im having a problem with tantrums...any advice?

Kayla - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My son just turned 2 but i feel like he has been in his terrible 2 stage for so long...he is hitting bitting and has tantrums when he doesnt get what he wants....95 percent of the time he is a great little boy...until something upsets him...time out just makes him laugh..i dont know what to do to help control these outburts...


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Deanna - posted on 06/20/2009




I'd say just keep on with the time outs. Kids eventually get the point. We're going through this now. Not biting but hitting. So I've put time outs into place. My daughter had a time out today and she screamed the ENTIRE 2 minutes she was in time out. But once she came out of her time out I told her why she was placed in time out, asked her to tell me she was sorry and then gave hugs and kisses. And so far today she's only had the one time out.

Pamela - posted on 06/20/2009




i have five children and have gone through the same thing and had lots of advice about how to deal with it the only thing that has ever worked for me is being consistant with the message of no and let them tantrum egnore the screeming and crying it will stop as they move on to something else as for the violent attacks remove him tell him to go away from you or remove your self if out turn your back so they cant see your face they hate being pushed away and will turn it to needing you to hold them make it clear everytime that it is not ok to hurt you and always exsplain why you have said no it takes time but dose work and it can be hard to do alone so get suport from friends partner and other family to help you stay calm and focosted. hope this helps

Jackie - posted on 06/20/2009




you know i know this is probably going to sound bad. but if the talking doesn't work. maybe just bite him back. just once, you know not hard enough to draw blood or leave marks or anything, but just enough to let him know that it hurts. some kids don't learn with talking, they don't understand why they shouldn't bite. i have put my oldest who will be 3 in aug in time out since he was one. maybe you could try making him stand in the corner, my son hated that. he might not think that's too funny. 2 is a hard age for kids, they try to be so independent and can;t so mad when they cant, good luck hon

Stevie - posted on 06/20/2009




i would say to just ignore his attitude i dont have a 2yr old my boy is only 7 months lol but if time outs isnt helping just try to ignore his bad attitude it doesnt mean to ignore the child just what he is progesting out but i have no problem with giving a spanking if the need be or maybe popping his hand there is a difference in abuse and hitting from spanking to help teach a lesson you cant show your fear or weakness (im not saying you are by far i dont think you are either of) but just ignore his attitude and i think that will help goodluck

Kate - posted on 06/20/2009




I tell my daughter "No, we do not do that" and I hold her hands (or mouth) or whatever until she stops. Sometimes I sit and hold her on my lap, which usually makes her madder. But I usually sit in front of her and wait until she calms down and then ask her what she needs. I give suggestions -- "eat? night-night? a hug?" and see what she needs. In my experience she usually does not throw tantrums unless she is tired, hungry, sore (teething), etc. If she does, then she gets ignored (she likes to scream if I take toys away). The pack-n-play works great for time outs especially if you leave the room but stay in earshot because they really hate not being able to play or see you, but you can hear that they're okay. Assuming he can't climb out. If he can, hold him in place on a chair, it will at least make him mad, and if you are calm it's a good way to "punish" his outbursts.

Ashley - posted on 06/20/2009




With my son I would tell him that hitting and biting is NOT ok... he would go to time out... I know that this sounds like you're just talking to your child, however, after continuously doing this, my son started to listen. Now if we're in a store and a child acts like he used to, he looks at me and tells me, "He's being bad and we don't do that, right?" and I always smile and answer "yes baby..." The biggest point to all of this babble is "Follow through with your threats"

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