The birth of his child.

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Very very brief background... The father of my soon to be 3 children is about to have another child. The child should be here in the next couple of weeks. We had split up for a while and he managed to get her pregnant. She has tried to sabotage our relationship ever since we've been back together.
Anyway. After our discussions, he has decided to be a part of his son's life, with my encouragement. Since things are getting closer we recently discussed how things will go when his son is born, and he said he would be going up to the hospital. I told him I am uncomfortable with him going by his self. Then he responded by asking, kind of not serious, if I wanted to go. And I said no at first. But now I am wondering why i wouldn't. This child will forever be a part of my life. Wjy should I be left out. But then again, i have never seen this woman face to face, but we have exchanged words. I am just needing advice from other women. I know this is her baby, and her birthing experience. I am just not comfortable with them soending time together. Idk. I just need advice.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/20/2015




You have to accept that he's going to be seeing her at child exchanges, etc for the next 18 years. You do not have a place at HER delivery, nor should you even think about trying to wedge yourself into that. That is presumptive, and rude.
You reconciled with this man KNOWING that he'd been with another, and now has another responsibility. It is admirable that you accept that the child is his, and will be in your lives, but you have no place other than 'stepmother'.
If SHE invites you, then by all means, consider it. But if not...get used to it.

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2015




The hospital is not you place. Unless she invites you there you have no business being there. As for them spending time together you are going to have to get use to that. They have a child together....they are going to be spending time together for the next 18 plus years.

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