the father of my sons want nothing to do with them!

Mummy - posted on 09/07/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have tried so hard to get the father of my kids to see our boys but he doesn't make any effort to, he keeps saying its my fault and I keep them away from him but I don't he makes up so many excuses to not be apart of their life.

He has another child to an ex before me and he rubs it in to me that he spends fathers day and birthdays with his other child and not with ours.

I don't know what to do anymore it hurts me so much, I want to know if he is ever going to feel guilty for what he is doing. I am starting to believe him, maybe it is my fault :(


Ev - posted on 09/07/2014




As hard as this is going to sound, it is the truth. You can not make a person do something they do not want to do. That said, if you have offered to let him come see the children and he has refused, it is on him. Make sure that you write down dates, times and what was said or texted about those visits and his replies to them. Keep a going log of this. THen find a lawyer and set up custody, visitation and child support on this man. At best you can at least get some support to help raise the kids that he won't come and see. By writing down this information and keeping a log of it you have proof you have tried to get him to come visit and also if you can get print outs of the text messages or even emails, do it because this is documentation of requesting he visit. Other than that, you can not force him to have a relationship with his kids. And once the judge makes the decision on custody, visitation and support, you both have to follow the orders to a T. As long as you do your part in this you have nothing to worry about.

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