the father of your children is having another baby. Should I fight for my family?

Tiffany - posted on 04/30/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been with the father of my children for 9 years and he has be incarcerated for at least 7 of them on and off. I love him and wanted to have my family with him but this time when he came home he decided that since I slept with someone else he was going to do the same. The girl he chose to do this with is someone we've had a problem with in the past. I got pregnant when he came home and now I have a 2 month old and he's back in jail and the other women is pregnant. I want to know how do I get over this and should I fight for my family or let him go?


Jodi - posted on 05/01/2015



3907 have not been "with" this guy for 9 years. You have sex him when he is around and you have sex with other people when he is not. Let's call a spade a spade here. At any time YOU have sex with someone else, you could just as easily get pregnant. So I'm not sure where you suddenly get off being upset over it. He's certainly not doing anything you wouldn't do.

Now, what do you mean "fight for my family". Fight to keep it together??? Are you kidding? The guy is in and out of jail and you are both totally unfaithful to each other. I have to ask, WHAT family? You are not a family. You are a single mother with children. He is a single father with children. You both have equal rights to the children you have together. But you certainly are NOT a family together. Let him go? He was gone a long time ago - around the time one, the other, or both of you decided that it was totally ok to have sex with other people. Families don't do that to each other.

Having said that, however, that doesn't mean he doesn't get to have a relationship with his kids. THEY are still his family. Just as they are still your family.

Can I suggest you work on your taste in men? Someone who can be a better influence on your children?


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Raye - posted on 05/01/2015




I totally agree with Jodi. Sounds like you have made some bad decisions. Why do you hang on to a man that keeps getting locked up and you can't be faithful to him and he can't be faithful to you? This is not a healthy environment for yourself or your kids.

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