the poor behavior of adult children

Beverly - posted on 10/20/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




Is there any way to releave the pain when your adult children use your grandchildren against you when they are mad?


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Erin - posted on 10/20/2014




I know whatever is going on with your kids must be tough for you. Can you give us more information about what's going on exactly?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/20/2014




If you and your adult children do not have a good relationship, it is reasonable that they don't wish to have their children around you. That's not necessarily using the children 'against' you, but keeping the children out of the family arguments.

Perhaps, if you and your children can work out your differences, they will be more amiable to allowing you to know your grandchildren. However, if you cannot, don't expect to know the grandkids a whole lot. Involve yourself with local groups that need 'foster' grandmas, and move forward. Good luck!

Chet - posted on 10/20/2014




It's pretty rare for parents to simply use their children against the grandparents. There's usually a lot of other stuff going on.

It's extremely difficult to expose your kids to a person you don't have a good relationship with. If you are angry with somebody, or you don't trust them, or if they have hurt you, or you have trouble communicating with them, it's natural to want to keep you're kids away.

Work on the relationship with your child / children. Try to resolve the issues there.

Guest - posted on 10/20/2014




You might have to be more specific to get an answer here. As an adult child and mother myself, I wouldn't even know how to "use" my son against my parent if I were mad at them. What could a child do? How are your children "using" their children against you?

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