The truth about Santa

Janelle - posted on 04/30/2013 ( 20 moms have responded )

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Is it bad that I told my kids that Santa Claus isn't real? I'm the one who buys their stuff and the Easter bunny doesn't exist its a lie. My friend told me that's wrong but I don't know.

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Enna - posted on 05/03/2013

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OK guys, you need to stop arguing, no offense intended, but you aren't improving the conversation in any way.

They are your kids, tell them what you want. I don't worry about if other kids tell my kids that Santa isn't real. They believe well enough when those presents appear under the tree. And eventually they all grow out of it anyway. I think it's easier once they don't believe anymore because then you don't have to be so secretive about it.

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2013

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I think it may have been this "I would never feed my kids that "santa buys you presents" nonsense." (do I need to point out the word nonsense as something that is condescending to parents who do feed that to their kids?). And possibly the fact that they aren't your kids anyway.



Perhaps, if you don't want someone to think you are preaching from a pedestal, you should reword your post ;) Just a suggestion.

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I would never feed my kids that "santa buys you presents" nonsense. My stepkids have been told that Santa thing from their grandma (since was previously their "mom" before my husband and i got married), but we had the discussion that we were going to tell them santa isn't real. I just feel like a child should know and acknowledge and thank the person who took the time out to buy them a gift they would enjoy. So, last year, after my husband and I discussed the Santa thing with them, we all made lists of the people we wanted to make or buy gifts for. They COMPLETELY enjoyed being a part of the process, rather than magically seeing gifts appear under the tree, with no active participation from them in the Christmas gift-giving aspect. We made the whole Christmas season about the spirit and family time, rather than getting all the toys you want from some mysterious guy in the middle of the night.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/01/2013

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Whatever you want really. But I do agree with Denikka. Make sure they know other kids still believe, and not to ruin it for them.

Jodi - posted on 05/01/2013

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That's your prerogative. It's only wrong if your kids then run around and tell other kids, smashing their beliefs.

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Brandi Rae - posted on 07/03/2013

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No absolutely not bevause kids need imagination,and makebelieve is part of that
Kids arent kids forever so let them have fun while they are still lil.
You shouldnt listen to what others say
You should raise your child the way u want,and try to ignore your peers and everything and try to be the mom. Peoplevtick me off trying to tell me how to raise your child. That friend sounds like shes yrying to othet mother you

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in my family we have santa. when i was growing up we got 1 gift from santa, and the rest from family/friends. my kids get the same (and for easter too) one gift from santa, and gifts from us, their grandparents etc, and it all comes under the same budget. my parents still do gifts from santa for me (28) my brother (26) and my sister (20), we get chocolate!!

the way i see it is each family is different. when it comes to things like santa really it's just a matter of what works for your household.

Pamela Joy - posted on 05/04/2013

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Roxanne is right. They're your kids; tell them them what you think. But the main thing is about Jesus who died on the cross for us. He's the reason we have Christmas. Here's a suggestion: now you can celebrate with Jesus instead of Santa. Jesus is more important than Santa and the Easter bunny. I hope this helps!

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2013

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Really, Kimora? *I* came across as offensive? Just because YOU have an opinion, doesn't give YOU the right to make comments that may be offensive to other mothers who do keep Santa in their children's lives. This post was about whether it was a bad thing that the OP didn't want to keep Santa real. Not a SINGLE mother said she should. Not a SINGLE mother put her down for her beliefs. And then you posted putting down every parent who DOES decide to keep Santa in their child's life.

Allow me to offer a suggestion. If you want to connect with other parents on this site, maybe this wasn't really the right approach - calling the things some families keep as tradition "nonsense".

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Well, I can see how that "nonsense" comes off as offensive. I was gonna say crap but I figured that was worse. But the wording seems worse than the actual intention, since you can't tell intention from what someone types. But because they're not "my" kids doesn't mean they're not "mine", as their mom isn't involved in their lives and they see me as "mom". I thought that was rude of you. I'm on circle of moms to connect to and chat with women who are mothers to the children in their lives. Whether its biological or not.

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I don't know where you're getting "pedestal" from Jodi. I was stating MY opinion on the whole Santa thing. I never stated I was on a pedestal or better than anyone. What other people do in their families is really their business. There's neither wrong nor right. But IN MY OPINION, I don't agree with my kids believing in Santa as the person who buys them gifts.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/01/2013

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It is not up to you to make those decisions for other parents and their kids. Why would you want to spoil that for them? It is non of your business how they deal with it, and it is non of their business how you deal with it.

I don't really care if I get credit for buying my kids presents. It is seeing their little faces light up with excitement. It sounds lame, but that is payment enough.

Jodi - posted on 05/01/2013

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Well, again, that's up to you. It doesn't make your friend wrong about her beliefs (or anyone who chooses to have Santa and Easter Bunny), but your friend shouldn't be telling you that you are wrong either.

Janelle - posted on 05/01/2013

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But kids should be grateful shouldn't they, I mean I bought them that I want the thank you not no Santa. And the Easter bunny isn't real, it's the truth my friend was wrong.

Denikka - posted on 04/30/2013

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It's not wrong, it's a personal choice.
I think the biggest thing is that your children understand that other kids do believe in Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc and it would be wrong of them to ruin that illusion. This is one of things that they need to keep to themselves and not tell to other kids.

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