Lissette - posted on 07/28/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am a mother of two; ages 6 and 2. My husband now wants another child which make it our third. At first he didn't want any more kids, so I got use to the idea that two was ok. Now I am stuck in the middle and not sure what to do. I have a fulltime job my husband has a fulltime job, but I am mostly with my kids, my husband works long hours and six days out of the week sometimes seven. Please help with advice. Thank you!


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Chet - posted on 07/29/2014




One thing I found useful was to imagine the family I wanted in the future. You have a baby a 3 year old and a 7 year old for a short time. The challenges of a baby or toddler are pretty short term in the grand scheme of things. How do you feel about having kids that are 5, 8 and 12? How do you feel imagining your family with a 10, 13 and 17 year old? What about having three adult children instead of just two?

We have four kids and they're close in age. We moved a lot, and my husband also changed jobs a lot when they were very small. Things were very chaotic, and sometimes very uncertain. I knew we could always figure out a way to manage though. Imaging the future I always preferred the image of our family with more children in it, and I didn't want to be the person looking back and wishing I'd had more children when I had the chance.

Sarah - posted on 07/28/2014




So sit down together and discuss things. What will need to give if you have another? Who needs to cut where? You both may need to adjust your schedules if you add another one to the mix. This is something you need to discuss and figure out.

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