this is how i found this site... i have a 12 yr old son ... that has turned into someone i do not like ... i don't know this kid... he WAS ALWAYS A GOOD STUDENT ...ATHLETE, KIND, QUIET, NOW HE IS NOT ANY OF THEM ..I'M SO FRUSTRATED I PUT ME ON HOLD SO I CAN BE HHERE AND I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE AT TIMES...!! HELP


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Jodi - posted on 11/09/2012




Yeah, it would be helpful to know what it is he is doing. Just remember that boys have a massive increase in their testosterone levels at this age, because they are becoming young men, and this can have an impact on their behaviour a little.

Ariana - posted on 11/09/2012




What exactly is going on? Sometimes it's easier to deal with specific behaviors rather than saying, he's becoming someone else I don't know what to do. If you can it would be helpful if you gave specifics on how he is behaving. Is he lagging in school? Not participating in sports? Refusing to do chores? Talking back to you? Lying? Whatever is bothering you the most tell us and be specific about it and we can all probably help you a lot more.

Also at 12 all kids start acting out a bit, they're becoming teenagers, don't take it personally. Of course you should do whatever you can to deter this behavior and do not accept it; you should also try to keep a good connection with your son (even if he is acting out). He's still your son and even though he's bigger and probably has a big attitude he still needs you there to keep him in check and to love him.

You aren't a failure especially if you're concerned enough about him to try to get help. Please give more specifics of what's going on.

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