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Mommy why are you having a baby if you got me and what does a baby have that i don't have, my 4 year old said this to me, what do i do?!?!?!?
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Mommy why are you having a baby if you got me and what does a baby have that i don't have, my 4 year old said this to me, what do i do?!?!?!?
Megan - posted on 10/23/2012
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When i had my twins i already had triples. I did differant things with them and they went to this thing i don't remember were but they help them and understand what its like to be a big sis or bro or they just did differant things with them. I sat them down once and while and explain to them that mommy loves them so much and she going to love these babies but not like how she loves you! I read them book about becoming a big sis and bro then i let them get things for the twins. They help do the babies room and everythign we did with the twins they did too! One thing i did was i let them make a scarp book about the babies. They were young still but i waned them to know mommy was still going to love them.
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This is what I'd start out with, when you do sit her down to talk about this: You are you, no one in the world is like you or ever will be. You can never be replaced. This baby is this baby, no one in the world is like this baby or ever will be. This baby also can never be replaced.
You are both precious, never will one be more important than the other. Think about all of the fun things you get to do. Wouldn't it be fun to teach your little brother or sister how to do these things?
Keep talking positively about the entire experience.
In my case I had my second for my first. I wanted them to be close. I love my kids, and told my daughter daily through the entire pregnancy that I loved her. My son is now almost a year, and they play very well together. This is a huge change, and can be scary for a child.
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Holly - posted on 10/23/2012
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let her know that you love her SO much, and it isn't about trying to get something that she doesn't have, but about you and daddy, and her having SOOO much love that you want to share it with another baby. and that you think that she will be such a GREAT big sister.