Touching the belly

Victoria - posted on 02/24/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )




I realize that touching a pregnant woman's belly is this HUGE cultural thing. I happen to think it's really creepy and rather stupid to physically assault a pregnant woman. I'll tolerate it from people I actually know (my friend's mother-in-law got me the other day, I don't mind so much since my friend and I are due within 10 days of each other). I also understand kids under the age of 8 being really curious about it. But, for the love of Pete, I'm pregnant- not Buddha!
I don't care that people want to feel the fetus move. It's not always moving and for a long time only Mommy can feel it.
What I want to know is: Why do people think I'm a total crazy for not wanting people to touch my stomach? And do other women enjoy everyone treating their pregnant belly like public property?


Emily - posted on 02/26/2011




Yea its happened once to me so far. Im due in May, so im gonna get a bit bigger. When i was walking home one day a stranger walking the other way saw me and touched my stomach asking , oh when are u due? I reached over and patted thyeir stomach and was like "you wouldnt be touching me if i wasnt pregnant, so see how awkward that is??? yea, go away." and i walked off. If people are offended that u wont let them touch ur belly, screw them, its not their body.

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I HATED it too! My family, kids under 9, and some of my DH family is fine. NO ONE else was encouraged to touch my belly and unless I was feeling REALLY nice that day I had no problem taking a step away from the hand coming towards me and saying simply don't. They usually apologize and to make the awkward situation pass more quickly I would say "I am sorry but I am a germaphobe." That usually made them feel a lot better and just stop trying to touch me. our my kids for that matter. I don't like strangers touching my kids. I have NO idea where you have been so don't touch and really I am not a germaphobe. :)


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Krista - posted on 02/27/2011




I'm not a touchy-feely-huggy kind of person, so it bugs me too. I don't mind friends and family feeling the baby move, but strangers (or coworkers I don't like!) really creep me out. My boss always asks if she can touch it, and I would be like, "ummmm....ok..." but she wouldn't just touch, she'd rub like crazy. Last time she asked I said "I don't think so." Next thing we'll have to deal with is all the germy people wanting to touch the baby's face and hands!

Sharon - posted on 02/27/2011




Hate it!! expecially the randoms in the shopping centres or parks. Personal Space people!!!
I never used to mind my mother in law touching it, but now everytime she sees me shes going for it...worst thing is she's staying with us until May.

Christy - posted on 02/27/2011




LMAO, sorry. Maybe pass gas right when they are about to touch your belly? I had people touch mine and I thought I would mind at first, but it didn't really bother me too much. However I get it's your personal space and some folks need to step the heck back!!!!!!

I had a lady lay her hands on my belly and pray for like a minute in the store once. I was put off at first but thought, heck, a little prayer can't hurt.

I think it is human instinct to be fascinated with a pregnant woman. Don't worry, you won't be forever and you might even miss it one day. :)

Rhiannon - posted on 02/26/2011




I hated people trying to touch my belly and i also don't like to touch other peoples pregnant bellie's it seems like quite an intimate thing to do and when you don't know someone all that well its just plain weird lol :)

Amy - posted on 02/26/2011




I saw a t-shirt once that said "it's a boy due mid june, I am uncomfortable as hell and if you didn't put this kid in here, keep your hands off."
I'd never wear it, but I sure laughed my head off!! People really should ask - depending on culture. Some cultures it's a given to do so. It never really bothered me if someone touched my belly. I just thought they were just as happy about a new life as I was.

Christel - posted on 02/26/2011




people say it is good luck to touch ones belly for the ones who want to get pregnant they will get pregnant with in an couple of months after touching the belly! It also giving the love to baby who inside there! Its just like when someone sees an baby an wants to hold or touch the baby you are not to discourage the person not to give love to baby! Maybe the baby is calling out to that person and looking for love! Someone told me this!

Angie - posted on 02/26/2011




I didn't like people to touch my belly either so if they touched mine, I touched theirs. When they got offended or surpised I just told them that since they wanted to touch my belly, I wanted to touch theirs too...

Bonnie - posted on 02/24/2011




I had people touch my belly all the time. They would be practically feeling me up (just my belly lol), "oh is he kicking right now? Oh maybe over here? Or here?" lol

Bonnie - posted on 02/24/2011




I know how you feel. I don't even touch pregnant bellies of people I do know.

Tyrae - posted on 02/24/2011




I know how you feel. I didn't want to be touched by anyone but my family when I was pregnant (no shoulder/arm/back touches, nothing!). I actually freaked out at work when one of my co-workers came up to me and touched me on the shoulder. I had been dealing with people at work touching my belly all day and it was the last straw. I started screaming and crying and got sent home because I was acting "inappropriately for the workplace". I think everyone else was being inappropriate by not asking me if they could touch me. After that everyone asked at work, and it was alwasy a flat-out no. It's like a person's personal space goes out the window once your pregnant and it's absolutely insane.

Elfrieda - posted on 02/24/2011




I don't think I had people touching my belly. Obviously if they did, it didn't bother me. I do remember my sister touching my belly repeatedly at 11 weeks when I told her I was pregnant, and me finally slapping her hand and shouting, "That's my fat, it's not the baby!" But with sisters you can do that. :P

Alecia - posted on 02/24/2011




ive seen posts like this ppl really have strangers coming up and touching their bellies??? never happened to me. no one seemed to care much til my daughter was born. then strangers couldnt help but come up and look at her. sorry ur being assualted :p

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It didn't bother me when I was pregnant, and I admit that I love to gently touch a pregnant belly (if it is someone I know, I'd never do it to a stranger.) I see it as giving a little hug to the unborn baby.

Victoria - posted on 02/24/2011




simple assault:
: a criminal assault that is not accompanied by any aggravating factors
From under the Legal Dictionary.
I've emotionally blackmailed people who I can't intercept and faked a panic attack. If you start hyperventilating and crying (you don't even need tears to sell it) they back off. I'd rub them back, but I don't want to touch them either!

Stifler's - posted on 02/24/2011




Everyone hates randoms touching their belly. Physically assault is going a bit far. I rub people's bellies back and go "awww da baby" it works especially well if they're fat.

Kimberly - posted on 02/24/2011




Lol I'm so with you on the not touching my belly!!! When I was pregnant I hated anyone but family touching my belly and even then I only let them later in my pregancey. I was preggo with a few girls from work at the same time and they used to laugh that I must have given off a dont touch me vibe cause one girl was always getting touched where I didnt. I actually stepped away from people that would just put there hand out to touch me. I think if I knew you and you asked ok maybe but you dont just walk up to people and touch them any other time so why when there pregnant? I do know some girls that love it and I think if you enjoy it thats great but at least ask before touching!!!

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