Trying to conceive with military boyfriend before he leaves, advice please!!

Alicia - posted on 02/26/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My boyfriend (21) and I (23) are trying to conceive this month. He is leaving for the army April 1st and we want very much to conceive before he leaves. He will be on leave 2 months later (July), when we are planning to get married. I am in grad school for special education and have my bachelors in art education. i have decided to stay home to be close to family during pregnancy and for work. He will be enlisted for 3 years with two 6 month tours in Afghanistan, and will be stationed at a base that is 3 hours from me.
My last menstrual period was February 19-22 and I was using the pill. I am now off the pill and taking prenatal vitamins and eat a healthy diet. My fertile days I believe are March 1-6 but we have been having sex everyday for the past 4 days. I just want to know if anyone has advice in how to conceive, foods, positions, do's and don'ts, etc.
Also, when the time comes that I have to tell my mother I'm not quite sure what to say. This will be coming to her as quite a surprise. My boyfriends family knows all about it and are very supportive and excited for us. She is very protective of me and I am her youngest. I have two older brothers (34 and 30), both unmarried and no children so I think she may be disappointed in me at first. But I do know she will be supportive in the end. She is the type of person that always puts others before herself and has a big heart. I've been wondering whether I should tell her myself? Or with my boyfriend present?

Any advice on this situation would be much appreciated. And advice from military wives would be great as well!!



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Michelle - posted on 02/26/2013




The main thing to do is to stop stressing about it and "trying"! The more you are concentrating on falling pregnant the least likely you are to fall pregnant.

Enjoy the last month or so you have together. Go on dates and spend quality time together. You have plenty of time to fall pregnant but you won't have this time for just the 2 of you after children come along. You're only 23, I'm sure you don't want to be raising this child on your own while he is away.

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