Tween backtalk: Fed up with my ten year old and her mouth!

Shauna - posted on 03/11/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




The backtalk has become ridiculous with my ten year old. I have been giving my daughter "a day" for each backtalking instance (one of her TV days taken away). She began to tell me she didn't care so I took her electronics away. She is now 7-8 days away from seeing either one. This morning my car wouldn't start so I decided we would jump on the bus-I didn't want her to miss school. She has never been on the bus before and is quite snobby, despite my being a very down-to-earth person. She had an attitude the whole way and wouldn't speak to me. When we got off, she stood so close behind me I turned and could not see her. I called her name and she said "I'm right here!" I replied telling her not to play around it wasn't funny and she said "Did I laugh?" with the most sarcastic tone. Before I knew it I had popped her in her mouth (not hard) and told her sternly to never speak to me like that again. I hate to do this but feel she is testing me and it will get worse if I don't let her know it won't be tolerated! Any other ideas?


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Stepheinie - posted on 10/24/2013




Start laying down the rules you need to take away things that she cares about.start telling her about boot camp and how she might be going .if that doesn't work put her under house arrest.give her more home work.good luck

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2013




You hit her in the face because she was behind you and sarcastically asked Did I Laugh?

You need to learn to pick your battles, and sorry, hitting her isn't going to help you in your endeavour to get rid of the attitude. If anything, it is going to cause her to lose respect of you.

To me, this particular example you gave isn't a battle you needed to involve yourself in. It could have been ignored - she is just trying to push your butons, and knows exactly how to do that. I suggest you look up the "conflict cycle" so you can start to recognise when you get yourself involved in it. That will make it much easier for you to stay out of it, which in turn, makes it easier to find ways to manage behaviour.

I also agree with continuing to take away privileges, but you need to pick the battles.

Kelsey - posted on 03/11/2013




I would keep doing as you're doing. With each backtalk, take away privilege. My little cousin even had her door taken away because she kept back-talking and would slam it shut several times.

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