understanding your grown up children

Brenda - posted on 01/01/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I thought it was the best thing for my children that i spend this year with no effort to contact them, if they should contact me i will talk to them. I spent the last 10 years and effort to bond with them, be a part of their lives, however, i guess being married with a family of their own there is no time for old people. ?


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Amy - posted on 01/01/2013




I find it really irritating if I call my parents after a couple of days and they say "oh we were worried about you, we haven't heard from you". The phone works both ways as far as I'm concerned, and I usually call once a week, but they also call me once a week. Yes sometimes I get busy but I try. Your kids are grown and have a busy life juggling, work, possibly kids, there new family, a social life, so try cutting them some slack and sometimes you'll have to put forth some effort. My only other suggestion is to reach out via new technologies, Skype, Facebook, texting, it may not be the way you want but maybe if its on their level they'll actually make more if an effort.

Jodi - posted on 01/01/2013




Why did you decide it was best for your children to make no effort to contact them? That doesn't make sense to me.

Ev - posted on 01/01/2013




So you have cut the ties to your children? Is that what you are saying? You grew up and went your own way. Your parents had to learn to adjust to it. They had to figure out a way to be part of your life too. As a parent we are to raise the children we are given as best we can. Once they get to adulthood they do go their own way. They marry. They have families. Others have their careers. I have a daughter who got married a year and a half ago. She has a child. But I do see her off and on. Not as much as I would like to. My son is still at home but I do not see him often because of custody with dad. Life is what we make it. Life is what we put into it.

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