Ungrateful, selfish, mean adult daughter

Shelly - posted on 04/07/2015 ( no moms have responded yet )




My 21 year old daughter has two children of her own. She has always been a very hard daughter to deal with. Not strong willed but very vicious and cruel. We have tried many things to help her, councelling medications, etc. But she will not stay on the meds. Shes been diagnosed with Oppistionational Defiance Disorder (ODD) and is borderline Bi-polar. She was doing better on her medication until her father told her she didnt need them. She lashes out at me and only wants me around when she wants something or there is no one else around. This is the only way i can see my grandchildren. I love them to death but if shes mad at me for saying "No" to anything as simple as going to her place to watch a movie then i do not get to see my grandchildren. She has lost so many great people in her life due to her behaviour and how she treats people. I dont know what else i can do to help her.
My health is not currently good. And the stress of either just giving into her or not seeing my grandchildren (unbearable) is causing more health issues. I know the right thing to do is just walk away for my own sanity and health. But the grandchildren should not have to suffer.
She treats her siblings the same, friends, and the rest of the family. She is very judgemental and so mean with her words.
Nothing ever seems to be good enough.
I really dont know what else to do anymore and miss my two grandchildren like crazy!!!
Any advice would be so helpful.

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