Violence between siblings

Lamia - posted on 01/13/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am not a mother but I wanted to share my story with you so that you will be very careful. I am 20 year old now and I have a sister who is two years older than me. As a child, I can say that I went through a lot. All kind of mistreatment from my sister. I will not talk about the name calling, the mockery, the cursing, etc. My mother used to work on Saturdays and she used to leave us alone in the house. I think that she felt always responsible for me( in an arrogant, I am older than you, you will do what I tell you to so kind of way). She used to hit me very very hard. Not a slap but real beatings, leave the traces of her fingernails on mu skin. I was little but not to little to remember. Later on, she would beg me not to tell our parents. And I wouldn't. We also shared the same room. At night, she wouldn't let me leave my bed to go to the bathroom. Once, I woke up to her beating me on the head with a doll just because I was snoring. Later on, I started telling my parents. MY PARENTS NEVER TOOK IT SERIOUSLY, DID NOTHING SERIOUS TO MAKE IT STOP. Later, when I complained, they would shoot at me and her both. Like how they couldn't get a moment of peace after working so hard all day. And I stopped telling them. As I grow older, I started defending myself and moved in to another room. Even now, she tries to make herself look better than me ALWAYS. In everything. How she is getting better grades, how she is working harder than me. So many many things. And my parents are going along with it to. Always on her side. She is seriously making my parents hate me, causing problems between us. My father told me that he was working hard to fatten me up while I served for nothing. Part of her plan nowadays is that she is trying to reach for me; wanting to spend time with me, have sleepovers in my room. It's because she doesn't have many friends. A I am not saying this to be presumptuous, but I have a far more cheerful character. The thing is that I don't want that. I don't want anything to do with her other than the strict necessary. And my parents are taking that as one more reason to frown upon me and consider me abnormal and mean. I want to say to them that this is partly their fault. I love my parents really love them and they are doing everything in their power to provide everything I need. But I feel that I will always resent them for this.
So, you mothers out there, be really careful about this. I will be thankful if you give me your opinion on what I should do.
P.S: Sorry for my English. I am not a native speaker.


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if your sister is still that bad then move away. You are an adult now and have the power to leave all of it behind. Get a job save up and move. You don't have to tell them where you went if you don't want to.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2014




You sound like a bitter kid with a chip on her shoulder.

What you experienced as a child was sibling rivalry. YOur experience sounds exactly the same as every other child on this planet.

If you, as an adult, cannot move past that, may I suggest counseling? Quit being so bothered by everything your sister does, and start doing things on your own to raise your self esteem

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