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Want to teach your children the value of giving this Christmas?

Christine - posted on 11/30/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




Want to teach your children the value of giving this Christmas?

“There must be more to Christmas. I think we’re really missing something…..” the character sings in the classic Veggie Tales movie, “The Star of Christmas.”

Ever had the same thought? Several years ago with four children and their ever growing wish lists, we knew we had to do all we could to keep the focus on the true meaning of Christmas – the amazing birth of our Lord and Savior. It was important to me that they learn the joy of helping others and learn the value of giving.

I surprised myself by sewing an advent calendar. Comprised mostly of felt, there are 24 pockets, each decorated with either a number or a holiday symbol. The first year we used it, I filled each pocket with candy and trinkets for the children, allowing them to take turns each day to draw out a surprise.

The children certainly enjoyed this, but I wondered if this craft project, created by an uncrafty mom, might be put to better use.

I had heard of families using pieces of straw as a reminder to do things to bless others. Each time a child did something selfless, he was allowed to place a piece of straw at the manger scene. By Christmas, if the children had been self-sacrificing, the Baby Jesus would be comfortably lying on a cushy bed of straw.

Why not apply this principle to my spiffy Advent calendar? I thought of 24 giving things my children were capable of doing. I wrote them on slips of paper and placed one into each pocket.

As the days before Christmas passed before us, the children were challenged to think of others, not what bounty they would reap come Christmas Day. I tailored many of the activities to our unique interests. Our good deeds, which I later named “Compassion Capers,” included the following:

Bringing a bag of cat food to the animal shelter
Shoveling a neighbor’s walkway
Making a get well card for a fellow church member
Hand making a special gift for a sibling
Making cookies for the neighbors

These can be related to the needs and opportunities available to your particular family. If your sibling relationships are strained, they can focus mainly on building relationship and blessing one another. If you have a family ministry, such as visiting a nursing home, you can relate each task to that ministry.

The slips of paper do not need to be all pocketed at the same time. You can add one each day, depending upon the needs and schedule of your family.

Why do we call them Compassion Capers? Caring for others is one of the most important life lessons we can teach our children. In our family they are called “capers” because they are done anonymously, as much as possible, and certainly without expectation of recognition or reward. The children are doing good deeds simply for the joy of bringing Christ’s love and compassion to others.

So how about your family? Do you want to change your focus to be more outward rather than inward this Christmas? You don’t have to sew an Advent calendar.

Here are a couple ideas from items obtained from Dollar Tree. I purchased some red/white twine, clothespins, red cups and paper lunch bags. You can make a compassion countdown with the bags or cups for a few dollars. Get the kids involved in making the calendar and in listing the good deeds.

I have provided a pdf of 26 ideas for the family. There are lots of extra spaces for you to add or substitute your own ideas.

Please email me or post a comment and I will send you the pdf of ideas.

Rather than a season of out-of-control consumerism, work with your kids to teach them the value of giving. This could be your best Christmas yet!


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Christine - posted on 12/07/2015




Just giving grace and being kind.
This old world could sure use more of that!
Merry Christmas,

Cathy - posted on 11/30/2015




Hi Want to teach our children,

I really think your ideas are special and great but why not make Christmas all year round
Christmas giving or just giving should be all year round and it does not have to just be things giving of our time maybe on the phone or some place else that is the true meaning of Christ love.

I love to surprise people with all kinds of things cooking for a friend of mine who has two kids and a husband she gets so stressed it is nice to give her a meal that I cooked and she is so happy.

I get some food from a friend who has a food co op when someone does not pick up she calls me and gives me the food I am so happen but it is a lot of food so I give some to other.

How about taking care of a friends dog or cat while they are on vacation or just gone for a day or two no I don't get paid I won't do it if they want to pay me.

Well you see what I mean Christmas is everyday that we can help someone else pets included.

Thanks for sharing the great art project I just loved it an Maybe when I have grand children I can use it.

Cathy Helgerson

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