Was I wrong to let a stranger's five-year-old son see me naked?

Chelsea - posted on 12/27/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




The voice was loud, shrill and dripping with condemnation. ‘I don’t know how you can do that,’ the woman snarled as I hoisted up the straps of my swimming costume. ‘It’s disgusting.’

Curious to find out what changing-room shenanigans had provoked this verbal attack, I swung round, amazed to see a 30-something woman glaring in my direction. ‘What? Why are you looking at me?’ I asked. ‘Is there something wrong?’

‘Yes, there is,’ came her reply. ‘You’re getting undressed in front of my son. Why couldn’t you go in the cubicle, rather than parade yourself naked in front of my boy?

My mouth fell open. I was about to take my two sons — aged four and six — swimming, and the three of us had just got changed, as we did every week, in the female changing-room at the gym, in the communal area with lockers and benches especially designated for families.

I can’t have been naked for more than ten seconds before slipping on my swimming costume, and this woman’s son didn’t look any older than mine. Yet there she was, staring at me as if I’d just committed the most heinous of crimes. I asked how old her son was.

‘Five,’ she replied.

I told her she was being ridiculous — this was the female changing-room so I was entitled to undress where I liked.

‘So you’re happy for your boys to see you like that, are you?’ she asked, scornfully, clasping her son to her breast (fully-clothed, naturally). ‘I bet you walk around naked at home, too.’

I have to say, her son looked more embarrassed by her than mentally scarred for life by my nakedness. ‘Actually, yes, I do,’ I said, my anger building.

‘And exactly what’s wrong with that? My sons are very young boys, they don’t see the world in the way you seem to be implying, and this is the FEMALE changing-room.’

Afraid I was about to lose my temper and start swearing in front of my children — a much worse crime, I believed, than them seeing my naked body — I grabbed my sons’ hands, dragged them from the changing-room and made a beeline for the pool.

I dived in, and for the next half-an-hour I tried to push the woman’s judgmental, prudish nonsense out of my mind. But her harsh words kept ringing in my ears. Even worse, doubts started to creep in. Had I unwittingly done something I shouldn’t have? Should I have got undressed in a cubicle?


Amy - posted on 12/27/2012




NO she could of just as easily taken her son into a cubicle so he wouldn't of seen anything. You did nothing wrong!

Dove - posted on 12/27/2012




If you were in the CHANGING room.... you did nothing wrong. Don't let her get to you. That's the chance you (her) take when you take your boy into the women's CHANGING room. Not that I fault her for bringing him in there with her, but that's what she should expect him to see and if she's not ok with that.... THEY don't belong there.

Ariana - posted on 12/27/2012




The womans an idiot. Was there a family changing room? Even if there wasn't the womans being ridiculous. Like you said, she's in a FEMALE changing room, where people parade around naked. It's what it's for TO GET CHANGED.

My god, a naked person? Just like how we were born? The shame of it all.

Haha my son (3) was in the female changing room with me after his swimming lesson, and the aqua fit women (yes they were older ladies none of whom care about being naked in the changing room) saw him every week, and yes, he saw them, and he would go HEY she's naked, mama she's NAKED, and it's just like, yes, yes she is. So are you. It's not a big deal. Some people are just insecure, it's not a reflection of you, it's a reflection of them.

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Terri - posted on 02/03/2018




NO you have done nothing wrong you were in the changing room me and my sisters do it all the time we have boys and girls and they are ok with seeing each other naked body and in the past two of my sister had come swimming with me and my hubby and all of the kids we went into a family changing room and they just come in with us it did not bother them or there kids seeing my hubby naked as they have seen there dads naked if you do not want to see any one naked find a changing room on your own and don't complain when some one else comes in and changes

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