What age did you allow your daughters to date?

Arial - posted on 03/02/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My oldest daughter just turned 13 last month and she has asked if she could ''date'' because she likes a boy at school. She makes good grades, does chores, goes to church, and has a very mature outlook on things. Sometimes I can't tell if my daughter is 13 or 25 just by how poised she is. She's a good girl. I have asked my friends who are parents what they think, and they all feel that she's too young.

I do think 13 is young for a real relationship, but then again she's going through puberty and it's normal for young, hormonal girls to want to date. I don't think dating is so much about age but maturity is what really counts. Your mental compass and emotional development. There are adults that aren't mature enough to take relationships seriously. I'm not worried about my daughters age I just don't want her to get distracted by boys and experience heart break at such a young age. I also want my daughter to know the difference between love and infatuation. Moms, what is your opinion?


Ev - posted on 03/03/2015




Being 13 is too young to date. While a child this age can show some maturity in some things that does not mean they fully understand what dating is. At her age it should mostly be in a group setting rather than one on one dates alone with a boy. My daughter was 16 before she was allowed to date at all. My son was not allowed until he was that age either though he has not found a girl he likes enough to want to date. Beside the point, 13 is just entering the teen years. There are many things they will encounter and at this age, boys are just starting to get interesting as you said its normal for that curiousity to come to into being. Talk to her about what real love is compared to infatuation. Let her know that between now and the time she graduates high school she is going to probably like a lot of different boys and if she has boyfriends she is going to have more than one. She needs to know what your expectations are when she does have a boyfriend and the rules for when he is around the house.

Jodi - posted on 03/02/2015




I find it very hard to believe you can't tell if your daughter is 13 or 25. There is a big age and maturity difference there.

I agree that 13 is way too young for a real relationship and too young for dating. It's one thing if she is "going out with" a boy at school, but quite another to be in a situation where she has unsupervised "dates". I don't care how mature a 13 year old is, a serious relationship or unsupervised dating is not appropriate.


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