What are my rights as a step mother?? I have a step daughter who is 5 , turning 6 this November. I have been with her since she was 15 months old. Her father is taking her mother to court, trying to get custody. Her mother is amazingly jealous of me and our relationship.( the daughter and myself.) She insist, and tells the. Gild, that I am nothing to HER daughter and she should never have to talk to me let alone about anything to do with HER daughter!


Jodi - posted on 08/24/2012




Technically, you don't have any rights, but at times her father has custody, he has the right to hand over some of his parental responsibility to you. However, she is right in that she shouldn't have to talk to you about her daughter if she chooses not to. That is dad's job, not yours.

Why is dad trying to get custody off mum? Who currently has primary custody?


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Lacye - posted on 08/25/2012




You are going to have to step back a little bit. Just because you step back, however, does not mean you are going to love your stepdaughter any less. Just stop trying to contact the BM. Let your husband take care of that. That's his job in all of this. I'm a stepmother as well and I can tell you that it is not our place to deal with the BM. It is your spouse's. All getting involved is going to do is cause more problems for you. I know, I've been there. You are just going to go through more heartache by trying to deal with the crazy person.

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