What can I do to make my daughter feel confortable whith her step fathers family if she only spent time with them three times?


~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/10/2013




Just spending more time together. Maybe in intimate settings such as dinner at someones house, or meeting at the part.

Dove - posted on 03/08/2013




All of you spending more time together... It's a process that can't be rushed. Sometimes people 'click' really well with someone right from the start... more often it takes time to get comfortable around new people though.

Kristi - posted on 03/10/2013




Nothing until they spend more time getting to know one another. It's not just because they are her "step" family, they are new people. I'm 42 and still don't feel that comfortable around my paternal grandparents. I never did. We didn't see them very often and they weren't/aren't what you "expect" grandparents to be.

You most certainly can't force any of the relationships. I don't know how old she is but if her new granny wants to take her out for ice cream, just the two of them, and your daughter is too nervous or unsettled to go, don't force it just to be nice or because you believe your daughter will be fine once they get going. (You may be right but your daughter doesn't know that) Offer to go with them and be encouraging about it.

Never force physical affection. Ever. That takes the child's sense of power and control right away from them. It sends a mixed message about when and who they are allowed to say NO to.

Time and patience...


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