What do I do?

Saima - posted on 05/26/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is 16 going on 17 and has finished his AS exams after revising till very late into the night and is now off for 2 weeks.
He has asked for his Xbox back ,
Do I give it back to him? Bearing in mind his Xbox was taken away because of his constant rudeness towards me, he would not revise, help around the house etc. When he has his Xbox he is a totally different person. He does nothing! Not even eat or drink and he loves food! Me and my son are head to head when he has his Xbox. It is truly that bad when the Xbox is out. What do I do??


Sarah - posted on 05/26/2012




Limit his time on it. Maybe 1 hour per day. If he goes back to his previous behaviour, give him his x-box (but keep the cords).

Liz - posted on 05/26/2012




I'd require his willing demonstration of the attitude that you expect before you return it, plus time limitations as Sarah has already suggested.

I'd take it away again if his grades don't turn out as well as you think they should, based on his aptitude and potential: I know every kid isn't an A student, but if he's a C student when he works to his best but gets Ds or Es, then that'd be when I'd be removing his X-box again because he clearly needs focus to study. Etc.


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Saima - posted on 05/27/2012




Thank you for your replies, I have given it back because when I took it off him I said to him if he revises well and stops his attitude he will get it back. He has done so well so far. He had been revising every day without fail until late night and he has been helping around the house. At his school they have a "stand down" this means when it is GCSEs or A level exams the students who are doing them do not go into school because they need to revise at home. Well, as well as revising he did put the clothes out, washed up once and hovered so he hasn't been that lazy in the past 1 or 2 weeks. Also on Saturday he went out with me and we had a mother/ son talk and believe me we do not do them much now! It was lovely to know that he trusted me and felt that he could come to me and talk about everything. "I hold my hands up" I melted and gave it back to him. I think I will limit his time otherwise he will get all frustrated when I tell him to switch it off or even become rude again.
Anyway thank you for your support.

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