what do I do about a teenage daughter who's cousin continues to emotionally hurt her?

Diane - posted on 03/06/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My niece has done hateful things to my 15 yr old daughter for the past year or so. I've tried to stay out of it for the most part but now feel I need to intervene. I've told my daughter that she can not be around or communicate w/ her cousin for awhile, hoping that the time apart will make my niece think about what she has done and hopefully change her ways if she wants to continue to have a relationship w/ my daughter. I do not want my daughter to be around people that hurt her...even if it is her own cousin. It makes me sad that I have to do this but I feel I need to do what is best for my daughter. Although I've second guessed myself lately b/c my daughter came to me crying asking if she could communicate and "be friends' w/ her cousin again. She has forgiven my niece (which I feel is wonderful) and wants to be close again like they use to be but I'm afraid my niece will just cont. to hurt my daughter. It has also caused devision between me and my sister (my nieces mother). I've told my sister what her daughter has done and she doesn't believe me, she believes her daughter who is obviously lying to her. It saddens me that this has happened and I've had to make the hard decision to keep my daughter and her cousin away from ea. other but as a mother I need to do whatever I can to protect my daughter and show her that what her cousin is doing is wrong. Em I wrong in doing this? Pls. help me w/ some advice. thank you!!!


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it sounds like something you need to get the four of you (you and your daughter and your sister and her daughter) together to talk about. see if you can't find a counselor willing to meet you for lunch and have a talk with everyone. if your sister responds badly to that, then maybe you should just cut ties with both of them and explain to your daughter that it's not good for her to be in such a negative relationship.

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