what do i do with my 4 yr old son

Tongulaya - posted on 06/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a 4 yr old son who has a lot of energy but cries all the time when he cant get his way or when we attend to our 2 month old daughter. This is now starting to affect his schooling. I am very stressed out because of this. What do I do?


Louise - posted on 06/20/2012




He will settle eventually, his whole world has been turned upside down with the arrival of his sister and he is learning how to deal with her arrival and loose his hold over mummys attention. If he cries to get his own way totally ignore him and walk away if you can. When he stops crying tell him that if he wants something he should ask and if mummy says no then thats that. If you teach him crying is not the way to get what he wants eventually he will stop.

Heather - posted on 06/20/2012




I have a son who is now 7 and we have been through a lot with behavior and crying. In the end, I found being very firm, giving my expectations and following through with consequences helps us the most. Hubby thought this all along but I had to stop giving his crying so much attention and stop trying to make him happy. We had to be tough and tell him if didnt cut it out there would be consequences. He has grown so much now and we are so proud. Hope this helps. P.s. I wish I would had been firmer earlier cause his teacher had to put up wi the crying too.

Amanda - posted on 06/20/2012




Sounds like he could be jealous of his sister. I would schedule one on one time with him and do something he wants to do.
Keep telling him you love him and praise him when he does something well or he behaves himself

Also keep him involved with what you are doing with the baby. When you are feeding her get him to tell you about his day or read a book with him.


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