what do im 20weeks preg. and my baby's daddy doesnt wanna be in the pic but has no problem calling me to stress me out and start arguements with me

Heather - posted on 11/10/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




im also worried about when my son gets old enough to wonder where his dad is thats the reason i answer the phone


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Barb - posted on 11/12/2011




It takes two to argue. Don't argue with him and stress yourself out. He can argue with dead phone airspace.

Him being in the child's life is his decision. You cannot make him be there for the child and you cannot wish for him to either. If he wants to be in the child's life, he will make positive steps towards making that happen.

I also agree with Sharlene about coming to an agreement on paper what role each of you are going to have in the child's life. Both of you sign it. You have to go through the courts to establish child support.. having that agreement before hand will help all of you. Courts like to see couples that try to work together for the benefit of the child, not the benefit of themselves.

Best of luck to you

Sharlene - posted on 11/10/2011




Hi . I would make it clear to him don't phone me anless it's about our baby,you don't a the father of your child phone you and getting you streed out and argueing with you.I would make it clear when your child gets older he can have contacted with him but only on the agreedment that he does'nt back chat you over his son and put guildlines down that if he wants to be in the childs life get a written docoment and you put down what you want and same goes for him if you's cant come with a greedment go through mediation .I hope everything works out for you and baby and the father.cheers

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