What do you call your sons private parts?

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2010 ( 73 moms have responded )

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I know it is best to use the anatomical name, but it just sounds a bit wierd hearing peanus from a such a young child. My son is only 10 months, but I like to label his body parts when I give him a bath and I struggle everytime I get there. I have been using peanus and peepee. Any other suggestions?

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Kate CP - posted on 05/02/2010

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How does using the scientific term prevent child abuse? Well, it's doesn't. I said they are less likely to be abused. Why? Because when a pedophile is touching a child they tend to be off put by that child screaming "DON'T TOUCH MY PENIS!" instead of "DON'T TOUCH MY BO-BO/PEE-PEE/HOO-HA!" or whatever you want to call it. Children who know the proper terms are also better witnesses and complainants in abuse cases because they can tell the court EXACTLY what happened. When a child says "He touched my doodle" that could mean genitalia, the buttocks, an ear, or whatever part of the body the child has named it.

It doesn't PREVENT abuse. But children who know the proper anatomical terms for their genitalia (as a group) are less likely to be sexually abused.

Crystal - posted on 05/02/2010

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LMAO I thought that you would have gotten the same replies I did about a this I post one like it awhile back I call my sons a ((((PEANUT))))!!!! YEAH A FREAKING PEANUT AND IT DOESNT MAKE A BAD MOTHER EITHER bAHAHAA! but he knows it a penis too call it whatever you want dont let anyone tell you that you are in hurting him in the long run! I think thats a hot load of crap, you do call it a penis but like me I call his a PEANUT more so then I do penis!

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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Whoever said that people who don't use the appropriate, scientific terms for their genitalia are less likely to be sexually abused, Is A Little Too.....ANyway. I Call My Son's Private His Peepee, I Find It Weird To Call It A Penis When He's Just A Baby.

Kristin - posted on 05/02/2010

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In general terms, it's their junk. But, they do know that they have a penis and testicles. They refer to their bum as their bottom or butt.

At 10 months, not a big deal. When he gets older use the terms so that the grown up conversations you will be having at 9 and up about sex and puberty aren't so awkward. Get comfortable talking about anatomy now, so that it isn't so awful later.

Kristy - posted on 05/02/2010

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I never felt like I was shaming my son or daughters for that matter by calling their child body parts something other then adult words. If there were ever a situation that they had to tell someone that something inappropriate were occuring regarding those parts, I feel pretty confident that an educated adult would be able to figure out quickly what they were referring to. And I don't think that you are instilling shame in them or are going to cause any mental damage by referring to private parts as private or something other then vagina and penis. The shame may come in when your preacher or teacher or other another parent of a friend looks at them in shock when your child is running around talking about his penis or her vagina infront of other children... in my opinion, I'd do what you feel is best as a parent for your child and your family and not worry so much about any permanent damange being caused by that choice.

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2010

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I think it is more about them being able to communicate immediately about things that have happened to them. If a young boy came up to you and said "someone touched my peanut", would you be more or less likely to pay attention to that than "someone touched my penis". The second alternative will make you sit up and pay attention wouldn't it? The first one could be dismissed for longer.



Also, by raising your children to have no shame about the real names of their private parts, they are actually more likely to be open with you about issues in relation to them and less likely to have hang ups about sex in later life.

*Lisa* - posted on 05/02/2010

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Hahahahah this thread is funny. We call it his 'little tacker' haha. But he is only 8 months old so I don't really talk about it to him yet. I'm sure when he is a bit older he would be mortified if I refer to it as his 'little tacker'. I think I will be one of those embarrassing mums... I hope not!
@ Kate Copehart: Is that true??? How does that work?? How can a child knowing the scientific name of their privates stop them from being abused??? (questions, not sneering)

Kristy - posted on 05/02/2010

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I know this sounds strange, but we always called my son's his plumming. i don't think he even knew there was another name for it other then plumming until he went to middle school!

Charlie - posted on 05/02/2010

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Penis and vagina in our household , there is no shame in calling your body parts by their correct names :)

Louise - posted on 05/02/2010

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I called both my boys penis a willy! As this is what it is called and is not as harsh as penis! But saying this my sons give it there own name. My youngest son called it his snorkel! God knows why but we still rib him about it today at the age of 16!

Krysta - posted on 05/01/2010

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im sorry but when i was younger my mother called my brothers a buggy && he was never sexually abused. Every boy in my family called it something besides a penis when they were younger && once again has never been sexually abused, so jennifer feel free to call it whatever!! I call my sons a wee wee or his winky. When he gets older we will call it a penis, however I do have to agree and think it sounds weird hearing it come out of a little boys mouth!!

Mary - posted on 05/01/2010

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when my son was growing up we use the right name for it. it did not do any harm.

Kate CP - posted on 05/01/2010

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FYI: Children who know the appropriate, scientific terms for their genitalia are less likely to be sexually abused.

Rebecca - posted on 05/01/2010

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I call my sons a wrinkle or a wiggle ( because it wiggles) and sometimes a willy. His bottom is his botty. and my sister in law calls her daughter's a button.

I think penis comes later when they learn when it's appropriate to mention it.

Tiffany - posted on 05/01/2010

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I dont have a son but i have a few god sons and we all call it what it is a penis. I have 4 girls and they know its called a penis and they know their private spot is a vagina so dont be afraid to call it what it is. U dont have to sugar coat it. it is what it is like angie said its no different from saying fingers toes ears nose.

Angie - posted on 05/01/2010

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Penis and testicles..... It's no different than teaching him fingers, toes, nose and ears. They are what they are and there should be no shame in using the appropriate names.

Kate CP - posted on 05/01/2010

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It's a penis. And my daughter has a vagina. "Peanus", btw, is not a word. It's spelled "penis". :)

Krista - posted on 05/01/2010

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I usually call it his penis, but also often find myself calling it his "little pecker".

Cindy - posted on 05/01/2010

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It is better to call it the real name for saftey reasons,but in our house of 4 girls and 2 boys we call that part of the body the toushy.It is a bit controversal and can be a bit embarressing,so you have to choose what works for your house hold, there's plenty of time for him to learn the proper name.Remember to call it something that wont be to hard to pronounce aswell.

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