What do you do about an ex-husband that drinks around his son during his visitation


~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/16/2012




Really depends on your child, and how much alcohol is consumed. A beer or two is not a big deal. Getting shitfaced? I would be speaking to my lawyer about supervised visits, because that is endangering the life of your child.

Jodi - posted on 10/16/2012




Depends what you mean by "drinks". I don't have an issue with a parent having a drink or two around a child, but getting drunk is quite another matter.

Ariana - posted on 10/16/2012




Is this supervised visitation or at-home visitation? If he drinks during his visits you should contact your lawyer and see if you can get his visitation supervised.

I mean you can try to talk to him reasonably and just say you feel uncomfortable that he is drinking near his son during his visitations and could he please refrain until after his visitation time?

Is he getting trashed? I know people who drink a couple beers and I've also met people with their kids who get completely wasted so I do think there is a difference. If he's going over the top I would definitely talk to a lawyer and ask them what you can do legally.


View replies by

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/16/2012




I'm with Jodi. If he's getting totally blindsided, and it would be unsafe to leave the child with him, then you do need to address the situation.

However, if he's having a beer in the evening, and the child is in his presence, I don't see anything wrong with that.

If you're going to push the issue, though, make sure that YOU do not drink a drop when the child is in the house, EVER. Because he will bring it back against you if you do.

Just because someone has a drink or two in the presence of a child does not make them a bad person. As a matter of fact, I used those as "teaching" moments, teaching my kids that alcohol wasn't necessary at all times, but that consuming it needed to be done in a responsible manner.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms