What do you love about being a mum?

*Lisa* - posted on 05/02/2010 ( 259 moms have responded )

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I just stumbled across the most depressing website ever. It was a group (and a large group at that) of mums talking about how much they hated being a mum and how they wish they had never had children. There was so much hate in their words. I understand that being a mother has challenges and is certainly not easy, but I felt so sorry for their kids. :*(

So to turn it around, what do you LOVE about being a mum???

Edit: Or tell us a precious (or funny) moment with your kids.

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Andrea - posted on 05/02/2010

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That's very disappointing to hear mothers feel like that. Maybe they should have used their contraception (if they used any at all) properly.



I love the fact that I have the opportunity to be a mom. After trying to conceive for 7 years we were finally blessed! I love the way my son looks at me so adoringly, the way he laughs at all the silly things I do, playing with him and teaching him new things. He is one and right now I am his whole world (well I guess daddy is too)...I love it all!

Renee - posted on 05/07/2010

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Nine years ago today I became a mom to a beautiful little girl. It changed my heart and my world. Now, I have three all together, one six, and one who just turned four. The latter two are boys. I never picture myself as a mom when I was in my early twenties and no way could I raise boys. I grew up with two sisters, no boy experience. I LOVE them all so much.

First, I think its hard to be a mom when you are surrounded by "friends" who aren't or just aren't happy about it. They need to find friends who love their children. Second, its hard when you are surrounded by a society that doesn't embrace motherhood as being as important as it is. Third, each mother needs to remember to hold on to the positive experiences and let the less than wonderful run down the drain with of life other unpleasant experiences.

Erin - posted on 05/05/2010

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Don't be so hard on them, sometimes it's better to vent your frustration than to try to pretend everything is great. I love my daughter more than anything in this world, but it's bloody hard work and I get very fed up quite often. I have a couple friends who come over for playdates and we sit around and bitch and complain and we feel much better afterwards because we've let it out. Just because you may be frustrated with the job of being a mom, and some people don't take to it as easily as others, doesn't mean you don't love your kid.



I'd rather hear someone vent and see them release it than sit with someone who lies through their teeth pretending everything is sunshine and lollypops and then they turn around and take out their repressed anger on their little angel they are saying they love so much. I'd rather have a good gripe session and then be able to relate to my daughter in a healthy way. I know lots of people who talk about how much they love being with their children and how great it is who turn around and then ignore their kids in front of the TV all day, who don't discipline, who then scream at their kids or generally neglect them. I have way more respect for someone who is a bitcher.



Seriously, it's a hard job and some people need to vent. Of course if you are one of those natural moms who love everything about it and who don't miss anything about their former life of freedom and can live totally for their child and not have any type of frustration then power to you! Just know that many people struggle with the huge responsibility that comes with such a gift. Some people work hard to give their children a good foundation with discipline and love and stability and do acknowledge what they gave up to give to the child.



Everyone is different, those women, I'm sure didn't hate their children, they were probably just venting.



Also, lots of people have bad marriages and that makes child rearing even worse, except of course if you are married to the wrong person or a jerk, you never should have had children.



I love the person my daughter is becoming, she is strong, smart and sassy and she's only three! But I'll freely admit it's been work and not always fun and easy, that's just the myth you are sold as a girl that they keep selling you right up to womanhood.



I think people go into it expecting it to be something it's not. Baby's are work, children are work, even if they are good kids, it's still work. The fact that no one tells us how hard it is when we are young and when we decide to have them does us no good at all. I think when people decide to have kids someone should sit them down and tell them how hard it is and tell them that there are moments of joy but also loads of frustration, fear, being at your wit's end because of lack of sleep/a fussy baby/parenting issues between partners and all of the real stuff so they have a better understanding of what they are getting into.



Again, don't judge these women, maybe they were just getting some stuff off their chests.

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*Lisa* - posted on 05/08/2010

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Thanks for all the positive posts ladies. Seeing as this thread is now over 100 comments I'll have to lock it, but feel free to start another thread about something you love about being a mum if you wanted to add something. Happy mothers day!

Michele - posted on 05/08/2010

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I have a 24y/o, a 22 y/o and was blessed with a 3 y/o who was a huge surprise! I live being a mom cause I love to watch and experience every little milestone they make, from sitting to crawling to walking to entering school and then losing them when they marry and start their lives. I love the laughter, the singing, and being there to comfort when they experience heart aches, I love knowing they are a part of me and always will be. Becoming a mom is when you learn truely what unconditional love is!

And remember, they grow so fast that one day you'll wake up and they'll be gone. Cherish every single minute you have, even during the most stressful times.

*Lisa* - posted on 05/08/2010

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@ Melissa Watson: Me too! I was so excited because I found a shirt that says 'You are my sunshine' on it yesterday so I had to buy it!! My mum used to sing it to me and I think the words are exactly right. :)

Edit: 'You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. You make me happy when skies are gray. You'll never know dear how much I love you. Please don't take my sunshine away.'

Sigh!

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2010

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I LOVE being a mom! Don't get me wrong...it does get stressful, but when I see my 9 month old's smile, it's worth it!! When I am feeling bad, my husband tells her that Mommy is sick and needs a kiss....so she opens her mouth really big and gives me the sloppiest kiss ever...but it has more sugar than any kiss I have ever gotten! She smiles and waves when I pick her up from her bed in the mornings or after nap time! And I LOVE when she is sitting in the high chair and just pulls me over to her and kisses my arm and loves on me! She's the sweetest. She melts my heart when I hear her say Mama!!

Jacqueline - posted on 05/08/2010

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It really is upsetting to me. I know someone who's said more than once to me "if I could go back I wouldn't have any children". Those words so shock me. If I could go back, I'd start earlier to be able to have more and enjoy them a lot more!
Being a mom is THE BEST THING THAT'S EVER HAPPENED TO ME. there are *difficult* / challenging times but all the good times which are way more than the other, compensate big time.
Paula, my eldest is 7, seing her grow and learn and explaining about things they're studying at school is awesome! Jan is 5 and he's the most caring child ever... he's got a huge heart and is just lovely. Pol is 18 months and a HANDFUL, but so loving at the same time... he's "bursting" at the moment, speaking lots, drinking from a cup, eating on his own with his spoon upwards (that was soooooooo hard, LOL)... being a mom is AMAZING!

Genevieve - posted on 05/08/2010

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Life is not a bed of roses( even roses do have thorns), and so motherhood has its own challenges,and it would be stupid to expect it to be all perfect. The rewards however outweigh the challenges. Happy moms focus on the great moments of mothering rather than the stressful ones! HAPPY MOTHERS' DAY TO YOU ALL!

Genevieve - posted on 05/08/2010

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My 10 year old daughter tells me countless times a day " I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MOM" and " YOU ARE THE BEST MOTHER EVER IN THE WORLD".These words always melt my heart! I could never change a thing about getting into motherhood! :-0). Thinking of it, I feel like I get the most HUGS in the world too!

Cathy - posted on 05/08/2010

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I Love.. Seeing their smiles light up my heart when i have'nt seen them for a few days (joint custody) thier funny quirky quotes, their lovely pure up one minute down the next natures and just everything about my 4 and 5 year olds.. luv you Daniel and Maisie both More.. Every day X

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2010

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That is so sad for the mums who are not enjoying or cherishing their children's childhood. They grow so fast! & for the poor kids. Being a mum can be hard & stressful at times but how can you not feel anything but pure love for your child. Even if they have been driving you mad all day. A cuddle or a smile or something they do to make you laugh chases all that away in a second!

Blessing - posted on 05/08/2010

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what i love most? everything but most of all watching my kids grow, mature and develop their indiviuality.

Beth - posted on 05/08/2010

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I told Maxwell, my 27-month-old, that his 11-month-old brother, Graham, was too little to drink Dora milk. Max said "Graham is not too little, he's perfect." That is what makes me L-O-V-E being a mommy to my 2 beautiful, wonderful, PERFECT boys!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/08/2010

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I was walking to swimming class with my 3 year old last week, she took my hand and said "mama, you're my best friend"... my heart melted and then I hoped she feels like that when she is a teenager haha:)

Amy - posted on 05/08/2010

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that is so sad we didnt plan our child but we made the choice to have her and wouldnt regret that choice no matter what !!! times can be tough but never tough enough to say things like that,My FAV THING I LOVE IS BEING TOLD I LOVE YOU MUM AND ALL THE BIG HUGS!!!!! i feel sorry for them kids but i feel sorry for the mums to as they are missing out on taking these little things for granted. :(

Debbie - posted on 05/08/2010

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I have four children and one (soon to be two) grandchild and there is nothing more rewarding (and difficult!). I loved their baby smell and their toddler hugs. I loved watching their minds unfold and blossom. I loved reading to them (and still do, to my 17 year old son, if you can believe that). I loved seeing their "aha!" moments. I loved watching them turn into productive, interesting adults. And the best reward of all, having a grandchild! There is nothing like it. I'm so thankful for the kids I have and wouldn't trade that experience for ANYTHING. The idea of that website makes me really sad.

Nat - posted on 05/08/2010

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I don't think these people are cruel people they may have bad postnatal depression. Also you don't know what kind of circumstances they're in. I do feel sorry for their kids and hope they don't resent them. On a nicer note. I love my 10 month old son he makes my day. I love the way he puts his face right up to my face and gives me the biggest smile to wake me up in the morning. I love watching him develop new skills he is such a blessing. Even thought it's hard work and tough especially young and doing it alone, but his smile is a reward enough for my hard work.

Paula - posted on 05/08/2010

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I love when I hear my baby girl crying in her crib first thing in the morning and as soon as she can see my face over the crib her face lights up like there is nothing better to see in her day
no matter how frustrated I get...her smile always reminds me just how much everything (good and bad) is worth it

Rachel - posted on 05/08/2010

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in the grocery store, my three year old blonde boy insists that i lean down so he can tell me a "secret. then he loudly whispers that he loves me "all the moons". what a sweetie. I can certainly relate to frustration, we live in a society that seriously de-values motherhood and childrens rights, which sets up a frustrating and often impossible situation for mamas.

Sherelle - posted on 05/08/2010

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I love that my kids want to hug me and be with me. For all the work put into them (and they are very long days) it is well worth it. However, like everything, you only get out what you put in. most of all they love me regardless of all my faults and the extra 7kg I'm carrying since having them!

Elysia - posted on 05/08/2010

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I love nearly everything about being mummy. I love that first smile of a morning when you get them up. I love all the hugs and kisses through the day and i love watching my son learn new things and become a real little man. Im so proud of my baby and i wouldnt change a thing. xx

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I can not believe people would set up such a website it is amazing and extremely sad !!!!
I have 3 girls age 11, 6 and 15 months and i love being a mum it is the best thing ever. I love watching them do their 1st' s eg steps, words and smile and when they just want to sit and give me a cuddle.
I love the fact that even if you have told them off they still love you and you them, you never get the sort of unconditional love you have with you children anywhere else.
I find it really hard to believe people hate being a Mum, even when it is all going wrong or one of my girls is being a complete pain one cheeky smile, a hug or a i love you Mummy makes life feel good.
I love being a Mum and would not change it for anything x x x

Marjorie - posted on 05/08/2010

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I certainly have had my down times raising my daughter; from being told I should abort her at 18 weeks because she had Talipes to feeding a tongue-tied, refluxed puker, but not once have I regretted becoming her mother. I found in myself a bottomless well of selflessness. I am totally overwhelmed by this inner momliness. I would never have put my needs last before I became a mother and truly can't imagine thinking about myself before making sure my daughter's needs are met. Here's to motherhood! I wouldn't change a thing!!! I LOVE BEING A MOM!

Elaina - posted on 05/08/2010

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I love waking up in the morning and seeing a smiling face. I love when he is sick he cuddles with me, I love when I come to pick up from daycare he comes running up to me. I love when I know I look bad he still says "mommy ur beautiful"

Marion - posted on 05/08/2010

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I love being a mum, as my children have taught me about my weaknesses and strengths, who I am, even though they are in their late twenties, they are still teaching me lessons in life, now they have children also of their own. I also realise they also have lessons to learn, and hopefully their children will teach them about who they are,their weaknesses and strengths . With all the trial and tribulations that go into raising these gifts that are given to us,I would not swap it for anything in the world.

Ilyana - posted on 05/08/2010

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When my little ones is naughty. I always think back. Was it familiar? Yeah right, I used to do it when I was little...and how patient my mom was.. I couldn't get myself angry any longer..hehe..

Kym - posted on 05/08/2010

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Well I'm a granny now but STILL love being a mom! And being a granny is simply the best thing that can ever happen to you!
Wishing all the moms including my own dear Mom a Happy Mother's Day tomorrow.

Astrid - posted on 05/08/2010

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My daughter does not speak yet. But I love it everytime she looks at me with her big, shinning eyes and does look happy. Great feeling!

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2010

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I love when my son laughs and looks at me with his beautiful eyes and tells me I can do no wrong ♥

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2010

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I absolutely love being a mom.. its the best thing in the world.. i suggest the people from that site need to open there eyes and see how precious their child/ren are.. i love watching my daughter even when she is throwing things and chucking tantrums.. i wouldnt take any of it back. every moment is the best of my life. my daughter is 13 months and i am only 19. so its a cop out if people say that 19 is to young to enjoy anything. i go out once a month and love it. i couldnt imaging life without my daughter and can't wait to have more.. though it will be a while. I do feel sorry for those negative moms and wish they would get help!

Jena - posted on 05/08/2010

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I am so proud to be a mom! It is the hardest thing that I have ever had to do but I have never ever loved somebody so much! They are the most amazing little people and my little boy just brings me so much joy, just typing this makes me want to cry with tears of happiness. Being a mum is amazing!

Cathy - posted on 05/08/2010

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Ebony was so excited to get a letter from the tooth fairy this morning, with $2 in it. That sort of thing makes it all worth it.

Lena - posted on 05/08/2010

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OMG everything when my son looks up at me and say " I love you mommy " It make sme feel like best feeling ever. or when he says "help me mommy" I am needed my son needs me and I need him to say those things each and ever day I love being a mom, and my baby has a lot to do wit it.

Yadira - posted on 05/07/2010

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love the fact that my life is not only about me - it is about my daughter, her well being, our satisfactions and challenges as a family and helping her enjoy life...

Fanta - posted on 05/07/2010

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Being a mom is the best thing that ever happened to me! i love her smile, her little dance that she does when she's happy, the way she reaches out to me and says mama when she cries...I even love her loud voice that she has no problem using at any given time of the day, I swear I have the loudest baby in the world but she's mine and I love her! i will do anything in my power to make her happy, she just started to crawl TODAY! I am so amazed at how fast she's growing, I can't wait to have more! ;-)

Ann - posted on 05/07/2010

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I love being called mummy, I love seeing my children grow up into responsible adults, I love all the hugs and kisses I get from them, I love it when they ask for my advice. There have been difficult times of course, when they were growing up and rejected me at times or their problems in their married life or their professional lives, but the sheer joy of being with them now that I am elderly FAR outweighs all the problems and difficulties I have endured throughout 48 years, and there have been many of those.

Tshepang - posted on 05/07/2010

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i love being a mom, my son brings tears to my eyes everytime i look at him, i still tiptoe to look at him sleeping and he look so adorable it just melts my heart

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just the thought that we created the little bundle of joys and we brought them in to the world knowing we could love them from the first time we held them. now knowing their faults what they could do or not do. but yet we still love them!!!!!!

Colleen - posted on 05/07/2010

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I LOVE everything about it! I especially love when he comes up to me and says "kisses, kisses" ... my heart just melts!

Jayne - posted on 05/07/2010

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Everything with my children is a gift. I love it all. My children add so much joy to my life that I can't explain. We do everything as a family. I have 2 boys and another babe on the way. I admit I get really tired and a little frustrated from time to time that is normal but I wouldn't change it for anything at all. Just love them all.

Katrina - posted on 05/07/2010

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My son Called me a couple of weeks ago and said, "We wanted you to be the first to know... we're going to have a baby!"

Now that's why I love being a mom. After all the years of giving, worrying, laughing, crying, hoping, fearing, watching, wishing, and praying... I was the first one he wanted to tell. (Anybody got a kleenex?)

Stephanie - posted on 05/07/2010

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What I love most about being a mom is that when my 18 month old baby girl sees me she gets so excited and runs full force into my arms and calls me mommy. Or when my 16 week old baby boy laughs and smiles when i kiss his cheeks. No matter how tierd I am or how crazy things can get around here I wouldn't trade one moment with them. I am so blessed.

Cami - posted on 05/07/2010

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I love watching my girls learn new things everyday, watching their faces light up when they see me, their eager eyes to all the things we see everyday and take for granted and the sweet hugs and kisses I get everyday.

Ma. Myra - posted on 05/07/2010

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oh i love everything about it. it's ups and downs..the whining, the crying, the laughters, the smiles, the hugs and kisses, the chocolates on their faces and hands getting off on your newly washed white shirt, LOL!!!! how one Mom cannot love that? Happy Mother's day to you all!!!God bless!

Isis - posted on 05/07/2010

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Before my own mom passed away, she said I should have a child, it would be the most wonderful thing. Almost 3 years later I did and it´s so true. You never imagine just how much you can love a person until you become a mom, and how much you begin to enjoy the little things that we take for granted but our little ones are discovering every second of the day and we can appreciate them through their eyes. Truly wonderful.

Marie - posted on 05/07/2010

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To me the most incredible part of being a mom is looking into those eyes every morning. To me there is nothing better then hearing them say mommy.

Llewena - posted on 05/07/2010

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I love that my daughters first word was ''no", even though her Nanna, grandad, dad & mum all avoided using this word, to perfection, somehow somewhere she heard the word and decided to make it her first.

Krystal - posted on 05/07/2010

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I love hearing Wil say Mum-my and look at me & smile. Or watching his face when he sees his dads car pull in the drive way and yell Dad Dad DADDDDYYYYYY

Susan - posted on 05/07/2010

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It's amazing, the feeling when my daughter was born. All the firsts, and the way she jumps up and down and even her girly squealing when she's excited. The giggling when I tickle her and the twinkle in her eyes that shows me she's happy. Even the look of peace on her face when my terrible singing calms her down at night. I could go on forever....

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